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Having lots of thoughts about my career and the “right” time to have a baby. I’m 27, husband is 28. We both have baby fever and feel ready to grow our family but I’m nervous that having one too early could impact my career growth... Any advice from moms who had babies around 27 or those who decided to wait? Would you have done it differently??

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I was 27, my husband was 24 and we were both Analysts who were just promoted to Consultants. So just 2 years into consulting careers. I have absolutely loved the fact that i had a kid “young” and newer in career. I took 6.5 months of leave and he took 3 months. We work no more than 50 hours a week but its generally closer to 40-45. We do not have as many obligations or responsibilities as a Manager level normally has at work. I don’t feel the need to “juggle” home and work life because home life wins and I am still on track for my next early promotion. I have the time and energy to be with my baby and loving it. Many on here recently said they are waiting till they make manager because they expect they will have control over their schedule but from what i have seen and heard from coworkers they can really struggle because of the time commitments, pressure to sell, managing people & projects, etc etc. Honestly have a baby when you are ready - no matter when you do it, it will all work out! And of course you never know how long your conception journey will take

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I had my first at 27 and my second at 30 three years ago. I wouldn’t say having kids stalled my career progression, as I’ve had good opportunities for growth. However, my priorities have changed and I’m aiming for the best work/life balance right now rather than the next promotion. So ultimately, it’s impacting my short term career growth, but it’s a choice I’m making. Wouldn’t change a thing - If I want to, I can continue to advance later on when my kids are older. A career is a long time.

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Never a good time to have a baby. Sure you might be more financially stable otherwise but the opportunity cost of leaving on mat leave as a partner with primary relationships with clients is arguably higher than as a more junior consultant. I took a year out (standard for UK) whereas a partner at my firm took 6 months. Again to each their own, but I didn't feel as much pressure to return to work early given where I was in my career. We had ours at 29 (me) and 28 (husband), but wish we had done it a year or so earlier (alas had a long engagement so only got married at 27). Having a kid is SO TIRING lol, you need all the energy you can get. My cousin grew up with young parents (26 as opposed to my parents' 34) and they were super close, and always the cool parents. Now we are pregnant with #2 and will be 31/30 when the baby arrives. If you want it...go for it!

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If you feel ready, go for it! Had my first at 26 (3.5 years into consulting career) and my husband was 27. I delayed my promotion 6 months (I took 6m leave) but no long term impact. I delayed trying for #2 bc I wanted to secure my next promotion first and now am on a long secondary infertility journey that makes me feel like I should've ignored the work stuff and started trying sooner! You just never know! Got pregnant with my first right away.

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Yes, started around that time, and then it ended up taking years. So thankful that we didn't wait longer, and definitely stopped caring about any impact on career. If you're ready, go for it.

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I’m 36 and won’t have my first till next year. I wanted to wait to get SM promotion before starting a family, but now WLB is out of wack and I pull 12-14 hour days consistently, so at this rate I’m not looking to leave consulting to start a family. I wasn’t ready until this year to start family planning (had other personal priorities and wanted to be in top physical shape before getting pregnant), but if I could do it differently, I would have started a family as a consultant when I had fewer responsibilities at work, like D1 noted. At the end of the day, though, it’s up to you and when you’re ready. You’ll make it work regardless.

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I had my twins at age 27 and then my third at 30 and my fourth at 31. It was challenging in the early years - we got an au pair for affordable child care but we had to balance our schedules pretty carefully. That said, it forced me to find ‘my people’ - the ones who supported my work life balance.

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I got promoted to consultant right after my first born (I was 31; started consulting late). Got promoted to manager after my second born (33). I slowed down with my third, it was getting overwhelming (36) My regrets are not having kids earlier because I am so tired all the time now (38) There is never a perfect time to have kids. Go for it if you want to! You are young. You can have a career with kids if that is what you want. It will be hard, but you can do it.

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Aka if you are ready just do it

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Go for it! There’s no “perfect time.” Also, if you’re like me, it’s difficult to accept, but this is one thing you can’t necessarily control because you don’t know how long it’ll take to get pregnant. We started trying when I was 27 and luckily it worked very quickly, but I have many friends and family members who took years to conceive. I don’t think you’ll ever regret having a kid too quickly, but you may regret lost time if it ends up taking a while. Work will always be there!

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I waited until I made Principal. I own my own schedule including reduced travel and have enough of a reputation and pyramid that I only work with people who will give me the WLB I need. I can’t imagine doing this as C when I was still trying to find my place and earn my stripes. If you have people who will vouch for you and a strong reputation, great but I love running my own projects and teams, owning the client cadence and having an assistant.

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Had my first as a C and can confirm it is hard when you get back to work, not owning your schedule etc. on the other side it is easier to fully take a longer mat leave and disconnect without ongoing client responsibilities. I am hoping as I progress it will be easier with more time ownership. That said, whenever you feel ready is the best time!

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Had my first at 32, second at 35, and for me, it was a great age. My husband and I got to have our fun just us for a while, did a lot traveling, and felt ready, professionally, mentally and financially, for kids. That being said, if you are ready, go for it! There is never a right time for everyone - it is a totally personal decision .

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There is no perfect time to have kids

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We started TTC when I was 24, but my daughter was born when I was 27, so you never know. If you and your husband are ready, I say go for it. It’s impossible to plan your fertility or your career, so do what feels right and figure it out as you go.

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