Heartbroken as things ended with a guy I was speaking to for a while, it didn't seem to be leading to marriage on his side so had to let it go. On apps im finding most guys arent really looking for marriage, more a relationship. Im in my early 30s. Any tips to feel better, as well as find someone new.

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I’m sorry this is happening to you! Don’t give up hope. One thing that helps me get through this is actually waking up and praying tahjjud. If you can get up a few mins before fajr and pray tahjjud and do dua, allah will certainly help you through your struggles. It’s hard but through pain comes joy!

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True words- I’ve seen my prayers being answered through tahjjud prayers and it’s brought immense peace in my life.

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Sorry to hear sis. I went through 3 individuals before Allah allowed me to marry my current wife. I felt distraught and heart broken when the former didn't work out but in hindsight I realize that 1. Allah did what was best for me and who I have now I am so happy with 2. I was being taught lessons through those hardships and each of us have to look for those lessons 3. Everything happened when it was the best time. I thought I was 'behind' but alhumdulillah x million for everything. Seek comfort through knowing Allah will do what's best for you and when it's best for you - He truly got your back. May Allah make it easy for you.

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Just what I needed to read😭

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Guy here but I have been through similar things in the past with girls I’ve talked to. What comforted me the most was when a friend brought his own personal experiences and said:

“it’s alway better to identify 🚩 earlier than later, it would have been far more painful to have spent 1-2 years talking with someone or getting engaged or married or having kids to then have to end it”

It definitely is painful and hurts now but thinking of it from the point of view that a little pain now saved you from a world of hurt later helped me a ton.

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I know it’s incredibly painful and 1 year feels like a very long time. But I think it’s good to think better 1 year than 2, also better now then after you’re married.

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Do not be sad sister, pray and make lots of dua. Only Allah can truly satisfy the heart. I’m in my 30s as well and this happened to me recently after a few months of halal talking but كل شيءٍ بِقَدَر. I sometimes have anxiety about it since I want to have children but then I remember to expect the best from Allah and never despair. May Allah bless you with a pious spouse, we were created in pairs and surely Allah will facilitate your affairs Insha’Allah.

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Ameen!

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Whatever happens, happens for the best. While this happens both ways per the comments above, I do agree that Muslim brothers need to step up. Enough of this brown boy syndrome.

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Sorry to hear this. I’m a male and going through this as well. Your not alone!

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