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Hello ladies! I'm currently on the hunt for a new job! While I'm job hunting I'm finding it very hard to not impulsively quit. I wake up everyday and say I hate my job. Any tips on how to survive this limbo until I find a new happier job.

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It’s really tough and there is little you can realistically do to overcome it. The fact that you have reached a point where it’s such a struggle probably means you have put up with it for far too long. That being said, interviews are also very draining when you’re in this place.

Speaking from a similar experience, as much as you want to leave the company you are at, you could end up putting a lot of extra pressure on yourself to find something else.

Like a few other people here, I would suggest taking a holiday day every now and again however I wouldn’t suggest piling in interviews on these days. Your current day to day struggle plus interviews is more than enough to make you feel burnt out and you may well do yourself injustice when talking to/interviewing with other companies. If you can take a break in between jobs, great but I know a lot of people can’t do that and whilst having a full day of work and fitting in lots of applications and interviews might work for some people - it did not work for me and in fact made me feel worse.

My advice - be selective with the jobs/companies you apply for and don’t feel the need to react quickly because you are desperate to leave. The last thing you want is to hastily join somewhere else only to hate it just as much. The extra time spent in your current role will eventually become worth it, as painful as it is now. Apply to as many jobs as you feel you can manage but make time for yourself. When the time comes, you’ll find the right place for you and you’ll be happier for it. Until then, take it one day at a time.

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Hey! I’m a certified life coach and have studied a lot on how our brains work (and have had my fair share of jobs I didn’t love). One thing Thst has been really helpful for me is to make a list of things that make you feel good regardless of your environment. Maybe it’s thinking about someone you love for a few minutes, maybe it’s taking a walk, or listening to a song that fires you up. It’s ok to feel bad right now being in a bad environment. However, when you’re in a stressed out state, different parts of your brain stop communicating with each other and greatly reduce your ability to be a creative problem solver. This can affect your ability to get your tasks done easily at work, identify awesome new opportunities in your job search or show up as the superstar you are in your interviews. So try doing something off this “feel good” list at the beginning of your day or before you send out an application or do an interview and see if that helps 😊

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I feel the same way! I almost quit impulsively a few months back but being broke is worse than having a job that pays for my cost of living, food, etc. Make sure you find time to take care of yourself whether it’s through exercising, hobbies, learning additional skills that can help you towards your next job. From experience, you NEED to separate work from your personal life or else you’ll get burnt out.

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Remind yourself that “this isn’t permanent” and focus on your next opportunity. I find when you detach yourself from the job you hate, it’s harder to feel upset/overwhelmed.

The best time to find a new job is while you have a job. You’ve got this! 😊

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I hear you … try to find the projects you like and gather as much information as possible regarding the teams. It’s hard to leave but harder to feel unhappy in a job everyday life is too short :)! Good luck

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I am experiencing the same thing.

Strategies that seem to work:
1. Focusing on parts of the job that you're good at &/or nice people you interact with.
2. Write hefty to-do lists to keep focused/busy. Include work and personal items to include tasks that prepare you for your next job.
3. Get something to look forward to. Consider alternative approaches like getting a dog, starting/expanding a hobby, taking a class.
4. Find something to be grateful about every day. 5. Try to find a way to pivot any negative swirling. Take time to acknowledge your negative feelings and timebox that time. Then focus on forward leaning things.

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If you have the savings and skills to do it, it's perfectly okay to quit. I rage quit my soul-sucking bank job when they told me to work right after my mom's funeral. I took 1 day off for estate matters, and my psycho manager asked for a note from the courthouse (lol okay). He also regularly yelled at the top of his lungs about trivial things, like font colors. I was too tired to fight him on a daily basis, but I did send recordings of his verbal abuse to HR, and they never responded. Quit with no notice period - "I resign, effective immediately. You know why." The head of our department actually called and apologized, and pretty much asked me not to sue them. I said don't worry, I never wanted to hear from them again.

Some things are just not worth putting up with. Not going to lie, afterwards, it was SCARY! I felt a sense of relief for ~2 weeks, but then anxiety kicked in about whether I would ever find a job again. I burned 1 out of 3 bridges, but the toughest part was crafting the message about why I left. My initial response was to talk about this verbally abusive manager. You'd think that's enough, but several interviews would throw it back to me, like "why didn't you do xyz?" As annoying as that was, it gave me a clear lens into the culture of those companies and teams.

Anyways, things worked out. Around 3 months and 120 applications later, I found a job at EY on a supportive, friendly, and smart team. A total 180 honestly. Sorry for the long rant, but I hope you see this and feel inspired to do something. It's still a hot market!

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Ok - you know you are definitely going out of this toxic environment soon.

Here is a radical way of thinking about your exit strategy:
- take every opportunity as your own experiment to learn something new.

For example: try a different approach with each of your colleagues and see if your interactions change slightly. This could be a new tone, a new behaviour, a new vernacular.
If you were a calibrated person, try spontaneity or vice versa - observe what happens - practice new soft skills on them.

You've never asked for a raise before? Now is the time - practice your negotiation skills.
You are on your way out anyway - nothing to lose

You've never spoken up before? Raise your hand and demand to be heard....and see what happens. What are the new reactions you triggered?

This is your playground to practice to get better for the next job.

Every thing is a little experiment that you design.

Maybe something unexpected will happen.💙

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I feel you! To be real, I remind myself of everything that’s depending on me to keep a steady income. For me i think of my cats. But it could also be like your standard of living/lifestyle that you want to upkeep, keeping your house/apartment, paying for bills, kids if you have any, or your SO. Just imagining living without my cats or making their life harder bc of me, makes me not want to quit immediately anymore.

I guess to boil it down, keep your self discipline and stay rational!
Good luck on new opportunities!

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I was in the exact same boat and I couldn’t take it anymore so I ended up quitting with nothing lined up. I made sure I had the savings to give myself some room for a break before job hunting again and my mental health improved as a result. It really depends on your circumstances but I would just focus on networking and making moves and distance yourself from the job. You are not your job and those small steps will help you feel better about progressing to your next role.

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Spend time looking for your new role every day and do something outside work that generates joy in your life to help balance. Beware the hype of a "hot" job market. Roles are still competitive. I highly recommend having a new job before quitting the old one-- particularly with the global instability in play. You can be working and unhappy or broke and unhappy. Seek happiness in action to change the situation.

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I've been there before in one of my previous jobs. Hope you get a better job soon. I feel there is not much that can be done when you hate your job, but cannot quit yet because you could not find another one. Maybe you could use some personal days and/or vacation to give yourself a break; also talk to your doctor, so they can assess if you need medication and/or therapy to help with your mood. I don't know how bad your work environment is, but in some cases it can do some harm to your mental health. So make sure you are taking care of your mind in thia stressful situation. All the best!

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I spent every evening applying to 6+ jobs! Getting interviews is what kept me excited and in my current role! It sucked but have like 3 months and 8 different companies where i went through 2-4+ interviews… i finally accepted a job!

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I can relate. Compartmentalization helps. Create a hard cut off time. After that completely detach from work. Take care of yourself before/after your day. Never stop focusing on your exit strategy. Think long term so you wind up somewhere exciting and aligned to your values.

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Drink coffee or whatever drink brings you joy, stay camera off and APPLY,APPLY, APPLY. When I was searching I only applied to roles that had been posted up to 24hrs ago.

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It's tough! I can only speak from my experience and say, focus on the future and what's ahead as a motivator. Best of luck in your job search!

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I understand 1000%!! I left a easy wfh job cause I was bored and needed more money, but now I’m stuck in a job I’m so miserable at, it’s to the point I’m in tears some days. I’m very tempted to risk quitting before I have anything else lined up just to end my misery, but I remind myself I don’t want to end up having to accept another job I hate with potentially less pay just because I need the money to pay bills. I have to simply suffer through until I can find something else I think I’ll at least like. Sometimes it makes me feel better applying to a job, even if I don’t meet the qualifications because then I can feel like I’m really trying to make a change in my life to be happier plus you never know, sometimes it’s not always mandatory that you meet those requirements because they’re willing to train you or if you interview, they overlook it cause they think your personality will mesh well with the team etc. As others have said though, it depends on your circumstances, I’m not in a good spot financially to up & quit but if I was, I absolutely would take the chance.I wish you the best of luck!!

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I can relate! Im mid job hunt but my current work is eating away at me. I gave my manager notice on Friday but instead of me setting my last day, we’re working on a gradual transition off (move to part time/consulting after 2-3 weeks of offboarding) so its kind of a win win? If you have a good relationship with your team and you think theyll have a hard time without you, I recommend that path. That way you also feel some kind of emotional detachment knowing you will in fact leave at some point. It’ll create more mental energy for you to focus on interviewing

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I’m currently in the same position at my workplace. I went on vacay so I can interview and apply for other jobs. Make sure to take care of yourself and your mental health. What refrained me from impulsively quitting is that I have bills to pay.

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I kept telling myself that when I do get an offer for a new job, it will give me more negotiating power to be employed.

Which was true! The last few months/weeks/hours were awful, but I ended up doubling my salary and negotiated a nice sign on bonus. I also love my job now, but it's hard to motivate yourself when you're miserable.

Not quitting now will help you be able to quit later on your terms!

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