Hello ladies,
Thought I would post this confusion here as some of u might have gone through it.
There is a guy that likes me since a quite long time but I haven't said Yes. He is patiently waiting for me to marry
him.No Pressure on me.He is trying to build a career to make himself someone that he thinks I deserve.He owns a business,started it actually.I do have feelings for him but I am into IT n the place where he owns d business is not a kind of big IT hub.Although there are all the WITCH cmp there in that city.Not sure what to do.

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Love wears out in the long run.Money matters.Harsh truth.


Is being with him more valuable to you than your career aspects? There are many companies offering remote work.. that may be an option but if you are only willing to be with him when it’s convenient for you then it might not be worth in the long run. My suggestion would be to decide what you want and then let him know your intentions if you don’t intend to marry him. He might not be pressuring you but you both are hung up on this decision. Go in all the way or break it up. You both can then move on with your life.


Not sure what type of business he is doing but since you are in IT and have a stable job. Think before taking any decision. If his business not doing well, you might have to hold the fort financially. So, check all the aspects and then decide. Once decided, sail with it. All the best

After covid numerous chances of US based companies offering remote in APAC region and fat pay
However staying close to IT always keeps you updated with the trends and more options.
I lived in a similar city I guess for a while and the fact of the matter is you might save more there than our metro IT cities.

I just stated facts choice is yours.

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