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Hello mamas, I have a 6 months old and dad and I both work long hours so we hired a housekeeper while I was on maternity to help with the cooking cleaning etc and to eventually care for our little one when I go back to work. I went back 3 months ago and I quickly realised that the housekeeper was required to do my job as mom while I'm away plus take care of the house which made her even more exhausted than I was. I hired a nanny who only looks after the baby when I'm at work while the (cont'd)

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It’s expensive but it’s the only way (I’ve found) to keep two people employed, run a household, keep baby safe, and have some sort of sanity. I don’t want to give up my career so it’s worth the cost for us. I do remind myself it’s temporary… assuming we go the public school route! I should add - a good friend tried to do it all and eventually left the workforce. She regretted it deeply and her advice to me - spend all the money to get the help you need and don’t feel guilty for it.

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Could potentially drop the housekeeper/replace with a cleaning service and grocery delivery. Would have to cook or order you own meals though. Nanny can/should cook for the baby when they start solids. My nanny also cleans anything child related and a lot of our common areas (not specific responsibility, but she does). You could also just ask your husband what tasks he plans to pick up to enable these savings.

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I was also about to suggest this, with a nanny, you likely don’t need a full time housekeeper, maybe go to 1-2 week which should reduce the cost significantly.

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Consider getting an au pair instead of a nanny. They will reduce your costs. Keep the housekeeper maybe on a part/as needed basis. But if you need the housekeeper then I think an au pair may reduce your costs enough.

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( cont'd from post) housekeeper looks after cleaning grocery shopping cooking only etc. I do bath time and night shift as she still doesn't sleep through the night. Husband thinks it's too much as it costs USD3k and part of me agrees but the other part can't seem to see another way. My husband helps but when we don't have help, baby is being tossed from me to him based on who doesn't have a call at that time and I don't want that for her. We have no relatives nearby and I don't want our little one in nursery yet as we enjoy seeing her throughout the day when he/I are working from home (not often). How do u guys manage?

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It's expensive, but the extra care will likely fall on you as the mother. If you can make it work, keep the nanny and housekeeper for your sanity. I watched a good friend go through this, and she ultimately had to step back from her job because she couldn't do it all.

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Put both my boys in preschool at 6 months. It’s honestly not that bad - we had evenings and weekends and never felt like we missed out. It was a relief to say the least. We put our money into preschool (they’re socialized and learn a lot more than anyone we could afford to have ie a nanny who can teach). We get a cleaner to come once a month - by choice but we know people who have them come once a week which is also nice.

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Can you share more about the housekeeper who cooks? How do you find someone like that? Does she prepare meals you request? How much do you pay? If I could get someone to cook for my family that would really free up some time for me. I already have a nanny but I wouldn’t mind having a housekeeper too.

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When we just had one baby we paid approx $50k per year for the nanny. We did the cleaning ourselves as our place was small. Now we have two kids and pay more like $70k per year (legally so includes employer taxes too) plus about $5k annually for cleaning every other week (now we have a house and it’s so worth it). It’s expensive but as long as you aren’t actively losing money, think about it as an investment in your future. If you drop out of the work force it may set you back or certainly stall you. If you keep working, you hopefully are on a trajectory where your salary keeps going up and then in a few years your kids are in school and childcare costs go back down. Also night shift for a six month old? Sleep train ASAP as a baby that old should be able to sleep 12 straight hours

Nanny and housekeeper for 3k/ month? That’s a great price. I pay around 3k/ month (on the books) just for a nanny.

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