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It is only now in my early thirty's and after a couple of really tough years at work, do I recognize the benefit and need for a mentor. I do not think I have ever had one really, only 'okay' male bosses. As the only woman in my company (for 5+ years now) I'm not even sure how I can find a 'mentor' outside of my company or if that is even a thing? I see that my more 'successful' friends have had female bosses they rave about or appointed mentors at each level of their career. Any advice?
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You were accused of micromanaging your manager?
Ugh I’m sorry to hear this. Good leadership is hard to come by. I hope it gets better!
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All feedback are always correct because it’s how other people perceive you. Take it as a sign and a learning opportunity. Adjust your management style to suit your team.
Your manager already accused you of micromanaging. This time, hands off. Lessen the number of times you reach out for updates. Allow them to do their job and make mistakes and then make them accountable for those mistakes.
Additionally, use a toned-down language. Sometimes people come off differently when they use words that trigger other people. For example, instead of asking for updates, send a meeting invite for your manager to get you up to speed.
I don’t have a mentor and am definitely seeking one now.
Do you use a task or project tracking software? So update meetings are eliminated?
Without much context it’s hard to advise further.
We don’t really use a software. There were three times I can think of that they said something similar to me. And for context, I’m still new to this firm.
1. On my 2nd week I noticed I was being copied on a lot of emails, and I didn’t see much of what the action items or resolutions were, so during our weekly check in (which they scheduled), I asked if there was anything I needed to do to regarding those emails. They told me (in a harsh tone), “No I took care of it you don’t need to follow up” and I need to emphasize the tone and body language (we were on zoom). It was just very harsh.
2. I’m working on a project with a colleague that I thought my manager might be interested in because it has some overlap in an area they’re working on. I tell them about project during a check in meeting and said if they wanted to learn more, I’m happy to update them, and they tell me, “You just need to let me manage (my work area) and let me do my job.”
3. This specific time which led to my post&ask for help: I was away for a week for a work event. My manager covered and had to push something forward for me while I was gone. I come back with covid so my head isn’t all there, but during our check in I asked if there was anything I needed to know about what they did while I was gone (asking because I didn’t want to drop the ball) and that’s when they said “You need to stop checking in on me and just trust that I’m doing my job. I’ve managed multi million dollar budgets, you don’t need to manage me.”
I’m starting to feel buyers remorse a bit coming to this company…