Help- i recently found out im 5 weeks pregnant which means my due date would be sometime next june. My BFFs wedding is the same month 🥴. She plans on asking me to be her bridesmaid and i think she is going tk drop off a gift and ask me in person. I know i cant commit because the wedding is overseas. Should i decline and tell her the truth now or wait till December? I want tk be respectful of her time and planning.

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Give the circumstances and the fact that she’s your BFF, I would tell her now instead of waiting till December

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Okay !

The advice of waiting till after your first trimester to tell people about the pregnancy is just bc it can be uncomfortable to have to discuss a miscarriage if something god forbid goes wrong

So in my opinion it’s actually GOOD to share the news with people that you are comfortable with and would actually lean on in times of hardship. So share away! And congratulations!

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Okay !

Definitely tell her now. I had a similar situation where a friend agreed to be in my wedding that was also a destination wedding then months into the planning said she couldn’t do it and just could find a way to tell me. It was much worse then.

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Why wait till December?

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Definitely a smart idea 💕

I would tell her about your pregnancy now, but also I wouldn’t decline per se - you can be a part of many pre-wedding stuff even if you don’t end up being able to attend the wedding!

If you are that close, let her know now and let everyone else know after you pass the first trimester. Tell her you would love to help her plan (if you do) and find a way to be there in spirit since you can’t physically. A memento of your relationship tucked into her bouquet, a signature drink of your design, etc.

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