Here to vent anonymously but if you have advice please share…

It is so hard dating as a young black professional 😩. I am 25, owned my own home since 23 (lived on my own since 21), am very ambitious, I’m about 4k away from making six figures. I do not want to date anyone with kids and I don’t want to date anyone still living in their childhood home or their Momma’s basement.

I just want to meet a kind, self-sufficient, FAITHFUL, emotionally intelligent black man who is interested in a ltr 😭

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Some advice would be to think about which relationship qualities are important to you beyond the checklist items an individual might have. For example, do you want someone who’s emotionally supportive towards you? Do you want someone who is trustworthy and family-oriented? What do those things look like to you in a relationship? Self-sufficient can mean different things to different people, for example, it could mean that you’re looking for someone who isn’t going to ask you for anything at all as they’re fiercely independent, but what comes with that type is they don’t typically want to open the door to build a relationship with someone. How do you want the other person to show up for you? How do you want them to support your growth. How are you supportive of their growth? Ask yourself how you show up in relationships as well.

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