Here's a light-hearted one: anyone regret having kids, especially for those that had kids in their late 30s?

I always wanted kids, but apparently not that bad because I don't. Contd

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Mid 30s but totally worth it! Except I'd tried to change my life to fit into a stereotypical mom and that didn't work.

I got back to doing all the things I love like traveling the world. I take her with me everywhere I go. She loves it!

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Yes! That's awesome.

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My last bf didn't work out, then I was single for a few years and considering becoming a single mom by choice using IUI (eg turkey baster).

Now with a new lovely man. We have so much fun together. But my biological clock is screaming haha. So loud that he just looked at me one day and said he would have a baby with me if I wanted one (he has a kid full-time already, really good dad).

I'm getting all excited but can i really do this? Waking up in the middle of the night, everything sticky and smelly for like 8 years? I have had so much freedom since I was 18. Is kids a mistake? Are my hormones just messing with my rational brain??

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My three kids are the best thing that ever happened to me. My youngest is 11 and my oldest is almost 17. They are now independent to some degree and I have a lot of free time to do other things. When they were growing, it was a lot of work. However, time goes really quickly and they're grown before you know it.

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I hear ya. I am 32 now and I literally did a u turn from no kids at all to maybe a kid when I am 34. Have no idea why my mind is suddenly open to this thought

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How are reproduction regrets “light hearted”?

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Love my 2YO son. He gets more and more fun and interesting and exciting to hang out with. Never thought I wanted kids but I’d never switch my life to not having him. He has added so much love and my sense of purpose is so much stronger now. Plus he’s awesome.

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Anyone with stepkids that added a baby to the mix? I've read some stuff where they called the new kid an "our" baby and that just grosses me out.

I want his kid to feel 100% part of the family, not replaced or displaced. Anyone have a situation where a new baby blew up the whole blended family approach?

I'd also like to put on the table adoption for her by me (she is 13) - even if she was 18+ by the time that felt right to eveyone. But that part is also very delicate. I know I'll never be her "mom" but want to give her security that I'll always be around and take care of her (there are also inheritance/estate/insurance reasons to do post 18 adoption)

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Yes since she was a.baby

Absolutely no regrets.

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