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You’ve just started your life and been through some ups and downs. It will get better, trust me. Enjoy your 20s ... you’ll look back at these days fondly when you’re 50.
How does one know that it will get better? Or rather how does one acquire that confidence?
I seem to be in a free fall and there doesn’t seem to be an end to it.
Hang on n there is easy to say, I will lift you when you need help is much more difficult. If you need an ear or a connection, I’m happy to help!
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Honestly, I think the trickiest thing about depression is the way it uses real emotional logic to cloud your vision and imagination of the future. You’re focused on the current issues (very valid) and then depression tells you that because you don’t know the way out that there is none.
Life is too wild and varied for things not to change. That’s in both good times and in bad. I think for me now, outside of some of the worst of depression’s traps, when I start to feel really overwhelmed with the negativity of the moment, I use that energy to help me seek change. Because I don’t know how, I go into research mode and treat it like a puzzle instead of a trap.
I just think ‘well, I’m not so uniquely special that my world can’t work for me’ and I think through all of the crazy things I could do that maybe aren’t that crazy, I tell everyone in my life how unhappy I am and ask them to think of what would be good for me. I research how to potentially achieve those things that would be good for me. I dip my toes in each place and see what feels the best. I inch towards solutions until I’m clear and ready to release the safety net of the familiar and leap.
Change is possible and you’ll most likely feel the most strain in life when you’re avoiding change. Most of us build up mental limitations in order to make certain decisions worthwhile. Your job now is imagination- break down those limitations. Nothing is “can’t “, it’s just differing levels of change effort.