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Hey Fam. Spouse & I have been planning to start trying to conceive this year & specifically this month (27 and 28). Has anyone else felt very ready to start a family but when it’s time to start trying, start second guessing if you’re ready and thinking about all of the pros and cons. Should we wait another year? What if we have trouble getting pregnant and kick ourselves for waiting? Will people see us more as just parents and not as much for our successful careers we work so hard for?

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Just have fun and don’t wear a condom? Lol

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Agree with this. Hatless is the best feeling

Babies are the best. You'll never look back

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Babies are the best. But then they become annoying teenagers and you want to strangle them. Rumors are if you wait another 15 years they are great again, but it’s hard to imagine we can survive this long.

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Happened twice. On our first and 2 years after going for the second one, we were discussing that we may not want the second one, she tested pregnant. 8 weeks pregnant and cant wait till we do the blood test and find out the gender of the baby. Children are amazing. Just do it.

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If you're ready to start a family and want to start a family, do it. The future holds no promises.

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Have a drink, pull the goalie, enjoy the freedom. Don’t worry about “trying” for now.

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If you guys want kids, have kids. Wife and I decided we wanted kids at 28, took a few months of trying but then we got pregnant and a year later couldn't be happier with our little guy. Kids are a handful but they are a blessing too

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Check with your gyno! Maybe you’re not in a rush and can postpone for a little longer. I don’t think there’s a wrong decision here. 27 is very very young.

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(PwC I think you’re right but my point stands) Op! Do whatever makes you happy and feel good!! My point about money is that it helps a TON (more than anything else) when fertility is an issue. Ultimately you have to make the decision for yourself based on your own factors just providing some reassurance I suppose! I really don’t know your personal situation, but potentially you could compromise with your two scenarios (now v one year from now) and start trying in a few to 6 months :). Wishing you the best of luck

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Have kids for you two. There are many things that other’s opinions can play a factor in but this needs to be just the two of you.

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Don't wait. You guys are still about a year out even starting now. Kids are great, better to start now rather than be stressed about how long it is taking later!

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My husband and I are also 27/28! We were going to start trying right when COVID hit (we had even finished moving to a larger place in February), but we decided to postpone. It’s totally up to you though! Personally, I don’t want to miss out on the more social aspects of pregnancy- classes and bonding and the community of family. My husband is high risk for COVID (autoimmune issues), and we don’t want him to miss out on the process too with doctors appointments and shopping for baby things.

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Anxiety is high. Sometimes I wish we just got pregnant by accident!

We did not want kids for atleast another 5 years. But we got pregnant by accident 9 months before our wedding which we already had sank a fair bit of money into. All I can say is dont wait it will happen when it is meant to. Life has a funny way of scripting itself. We have a 1 year old now best thing that happen to us.

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Bless your heart.

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