Hey Folks !
Need a piece of advice.
A company I've worked for before (in Europe), has reached out to me offering me the opportunity to work for them again as an expat from Asia.
They know about my personal situation (same-sex relationship, unmarried couple).
The job sounds great, but also a dilemma as my partner wouldn't be supported in this relocation. Do you have experience with continent relocations and how s your partner / family supported ? Thanks, Gafi

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My husband (same sex marriage) had a similar situation with an opportunity in the middle east. He told them to F off for not offering the same benefits to us as straight married couples.

Recognition and spouse visas as provided by the local government in question is a whole different problem, but corporations can choose what benefits like relocation to provide.

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Yes exactly, my first feeling is like it s your problem to deal with and the company will support me to relocate, but my partner can quit and relocate on her own and ask for a visa (again on her own) to apply for local jobs..

My thoughts are this--you're not *married*. If you were, them I'd say the company should offer EXACTLY the same benefits they would to any married couple. Do they generally offer benefits to heterosexual couples who aren't married?

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They would offer special relocation packages for straight couples. We're willing to get married. But same-sex marriage not being recognized in many countries in Asia might over complicate things rather than ease this up.

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First question: would they support if it was a hetero relationship? If yes, ask for the same benefits.
Second question: this depends a lot on your partners professional situation. More info?

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They offer relocation packs to hetero couples. I don't know about the benefits and I've been already open about myself as I m aware how Ungayfriendly it is in some countries.
This being said, the hetero couples who I know relocated, usually the man is working when the woman is a housewife, and is not urged to find a job locally. So maybe some allowance is given to the spouse, I don't have certainty, but can be.
In my case, company has offered me to relocate while my partner can quit their job (good salary) and look for a job locally in Thailand or in another Asian country we would choose that s gayfriendly.
If I were to work for them, I obviously want the same benefits as a hetero couple. Now same sex marriage might endanger us in some countries rather than help us.
So if anyone has experience around this and can share some tips, I d be very grateful ! Hope this will help other people as well.
I hope I can make of this opportunity a great expat experience, now the terms have to be fair to me and my partner.

(I'm married, and on my wife's insurance--it's the only way I was able to accept my current job, which doesn't offer insurance, but is a *dream* position--we've only had that option twice since we actually made it legal--before that we both had to carry separate insurance & make sure we always had health proxies in place & updated, as well as a host of other nonsense same sex couples have to deal with)

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Ooo this is exciting!

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