Hey, how do you all deal with inquisitive parents that live with you? My mom is here and I wfh often (moved internal after kids) but every time I step out of the house she asks where I’m going etc....

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Which mom in this universe does not ask that question?

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Come on man, the lady ‘dealt’ with your whining , crying and unreasonable requests for years. I wish my mother was close enough to ask me annoying questions. You’re lucky. And yes, that’s any mother in the world , otherwise you have bigger issues

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She’s bored and wants to venture out. Get her to be independent

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Tell her you’re going to a strip club and she’ll stop asking

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Why don’t you want to tell her where you’re going?

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I don’t mind being open with my mom, but there are certain things I want to keep private until I’m ready to disclose it, and this is putting me in a position where I feel like I have to either lie or go through this thing in a less private manner than I prefer. I love my mom, and don’t mind it 98% of the time, but I don’t want to be in a position where I’m considering lying for my own well-being.

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You are her child. She care for you. She has a right to ask. If you are not ready to disclose, just tell her you are going to meet a work friend, etc..

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Part of it is that she has no social network here and so we’re her focus, but I feel like I’m losing my independence.

Probably wants you to grab milk if you are headed towards the grocery store :). It’s alright OP. It’s your mum!

Plus you are talking about independence after kids? What is that?

Deal with her OP. She brought you up to be successful and be independent in your life and here you are saying you are loosing independence? I heard stories of hiding personal things from wife and friends but hiding from parents' is a new story. What are you hiding anyways that you can't talk to your parents about? High time you sit and think if this is how you want your kids to treat you once you are in her shoes.

This is a little ridiculous - FYI I’m female and could be going through anything like post-partum depression or counseling. Whatever it is, the point is I do not need to explain this to anyone until I’m ready to. That doesn’t mean that I don’t care about them any less. People’s relationships with their parents vary, you do not have to disclose 100% of everything to your parents. I’m regretting posting this in a moment of frustration when I’m dealing with something sensitive.

Perhaps we can hear you out?

OP- with you. I suggest it’s ok to lie and tell her you are going out for work related stuff. I understand it could e very personal. When I was going through ppm depression, I used to have multiple appointments but I never disclosed to my mom. But the thing is my mom didn’t ask any questions

I have been conveniently lieing to my mom since I turned 15. Just don't stop that practice when we are adults

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