hey ladies, have you ever been in a relationship where you know you are out of your SO’s league yet you also know he is constantly obsessing over porn stars? Is this just what our generation is now?

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Ew. No. Hell no. I mean, some women “don’t care”. But this would have me running for the hills. Especially if he makes you FEEL like he’s out of your league. I’ve dated good looking guys, better looking than me, and the good ones never made me feel like I was less than them.

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If you’re out of his league, why are you with him?

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he’s an engineer with a shy personality but treats me well outside of this pornstars thing, I’m not sure if I’m convincing myself to settle

This...is not typical of our generation, nor is it remotely normal. Don't date if it's that obvious you can do better and he's emphasizing that fact by obsessing over pornstars

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Implying it’s not healthy for a one to be obsessing over a pornstar

No

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I don't care if my boyfriend watches porn (hell, we even watch some together), but *obsession* is by definition not healthy.

I'm more concerned by the "league" comment. If you think you are that much better than him, why are you still with him?! Don't settle for anything less than equal partnership.

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I hate porn. I set it as a deal breaker with my bf (in my early 20s). My peace of mind is much better because of it. If you feel his obsession is possibly an addiction I'd recommend r/loveafterporn on reddit. It's for partners of porn addicts and you may find many commonalities with the women there

Yes. I'm not signing up to date someone who has a virtual mistress/harem. And even more I hate the expectation that women have to just "deal" with it or expect to be lied to

I’m sure a porn obsession isn’t healthy. I think that’s your red flag

How are you out of his league?

I’m assuming looks wise

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