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Saying this as kindly as possible (and as a childfree by choice woman), “Meeting the one that changes your mind” is a terrible reason to have children. It’s okay not to want kids. It’s okay not to want kids *yet*. But it should be a situation where having kids would be a decision you’d make entirely on your own because it’s something you really, really want. Divorces happen, death happens… there are many circumstances under which you could end up as a single parent.
Freezing your eggs should be a last resort. You’ve got plenty of time.
Long ass marriage that didn't last. He was abusive. 2 kids. Keep your freedom, your body, and let them play side d!ck to your job until and unless there's magic in a healthy way. Your toys will bring you more regular satisfaction anyway. Do all the things. Have no debt. Travel. Eff til you drop. My 2 cents.
Im really loving the energy here 😂
Freezing your eggs is an intense process and it locks you into $$$ IVF down the road (which is also an intense process). I personally would not freeze eggs “just in case.”
It’s also important to be honest with yourself about your motivations and priorities. It sounds like you may not be sure about what you want and why.
If your firm pays for it, that’s a big reason to do it. I’m doing it later in life (on cycle 2) and would have to likely do fewer cycles if I had the option when I was 30. Thankfully I do still have some eggs so it’s worth it (or at least may be). But if it’s out of your pocket, think through it as carefully as suggested above.
It’s exhausting, you can’t exercise (apart from walks) for almost a month, and you may gain weight. It’s like a lot of the worst parts of your cycle for a couple weeks. Mood changes, bloating, abdominal discomfort, exhaustion, etc. Also you won’t know the date for retrieval until a few days before hand and you have to be in town and available for appointments every 2-3 days for the weeks leading up to it. And you have to be comfortable giving yourself 3+ shots a day. I thought I would be (I get blood taken a lot) and I almost passed out the first time because I was so scared of getting it wrong (which is thankfully really hard to do).
For me the procedure itself (and the checkin appointments) and recovery was super easy. I went to an excellent clinic where this is basically all they do and they even sent me home with chocolates after the procedure. Every appointment stated on time and everyone was incredibly friendly. So finding a good clinic is super key.
All that said knowing how it feels now if I had the opportunity at 30 to do it for reduced price, I would.
Hi! Have you had any fertility testing to check your egg count? If you have a decent AML, you may not need to do this for quite some time.
Quantity does not equal quality.
The work up they do first is super helpful and could help you decide. You get data on your egg reserve and hormone levels, and they do a genetics screen. If you’re at a private clinic and not at a hospital, you’ll probably get a really strong sales pitch after the work up, so be prepared for that.
If you do it, a couple pieces of advice:
Make sure you go to a reputable place with doctors who have done tons of retrieval surgeries.
The hormones can really mess you up, but there are alternative options available, so don’t be afraid to ask. I didn’t know that, and the estrogen primer they prescribed me really f***ed me up emotionally—I was sobbing all day for no reason and felt super overwhelmed. I ended up abandoning the whole thing because I couldn’t cope and didn’t know there was a different hormone I could have used.
Take time off work, or work from home and schedule a very light workload. You probably won’t feel your best. You may even feel your absolute worst ever.
FWIW, I did it for this reason and found it pretty straightforward/uneventful apart from going into appointments before the day started for a few weeks. It’s not for everyone and there’s a cost. Happy to talk about process. Agreed: you definitely want to do a screen first with a reputable doctor and understand what to expect in terms of possible side effects and outcomes.
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Agreed, I’m mid cycle now, I don’t find it to be that daunting. But my fiancés job fully covers the cost.
I disagree with many of the above posts. If there is any doubt at all that you might want a baby in the future, you should go ahead and freeze the eggs at thirty years old. I froze mine at 36 and the quality and quantity were not good. Your chances for the most amount of eggs and better quality ones are excellent now. If you freeze them now, you will likely save yourself aggravation, the need for numerous cycles, and a lot of money later on. I agree with the comments on bloating and terrible side effects. Also, just because you freeze them does not mean that you are required to do IVF down the road. (Although: another point to consider: How will SCOTUS start screwing with these rights down the road—-this should be a serious potential consideration for acting now and not waiting with how reproductive rights have been and will continue to be attacked.)
Yeah. If my firm had paid for it when I was younger it would have been a no brainer for me. They only just started and I happen to still have a good number of eggs but I wish I had the opportunity at a younger age.