Hey mamas - at my current job I’m no longer happy. My managers style of running her team is a big part of this. Sometime ago when things were just not going well (I mean crying in the middle of the day bad) I began applying for new jobs. I have been with the company for 2 years, I always knew that I’d need a change but not necessarily leaving the firm. I now have a number of offers and wonder if I’m being dramatic? 😭 I don’t run from a challenge but I’m really not happy

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Time for a change! Go for it!

like

Choosing a workspace that isn’t traumatic is an act of self care

likesmart

Ur not being dramatic. Career growth comes when you are in places that make you happy

like

Nobody should be crying in the middle of their work day

likesmart

Not dramatic at all RUN lol. It won't get better

likesmart

Remember all the reasons you applied for the new jobs and go ahead and give your two weeks. Change is scary and we all get used to comfort. If you’ve learned what you needed to from your current job, move on to something new and continue to learn and grow. G’luck!

likeuplifting

Not being dramatic at all. If you're not happy, why stay?

If you've secured even better opportunities, why stay?

Work is just work. Do you and be happy.

likesmart

Okay wow - this is helpful

Sometimes we’re tempted by “the devil we know” mentality but from what you’ve described it’s more than time to move on to your next adventure. That you have multiple offers means the universe is supporting you! Go for it and good luck!!!

likesmart

I am so sorry about your experience. Do you want to expand a bit on what is happening? There a few items to consider: 2 years is the mean Pet to Threat cycle of black women in the workplace. I would highly recommend doing some introspection and laying out what happened and how you reacted in addition to seeking therapy. Why? Because in corporate America there is no true safe space - unless one gets very lucky or is a corporate drone. Based on my experience, it is about maneuvering situations with agility, gaining control of your narrative and developing tools to cope with work related adversity while keeping your dignity and sanity. Have you considered changing departments or groups? I am sending you a warm hug and huge congratulations on your job offers! I trust whatever you do will be beneficial for your career growth!

likesmart

I just started reading more about this pet to threat cycle/ideology! I definitely have considered other departments and a few of the offers come from those apartments - my worry is creating a bad name for myself in my current role/department by just moving. (I’m being a little vague I know- just don’t want to get caught up)

like

Reclaim your time. And a better environment

like

Please go for it!

like

Move on sis.

like

This bowl is the best 🥲 thanks y’all

likeuplifting

Girl, you don’t owe anybody/ anything, but your bank account!!! I left my firm on great terms, but after two years of chaotic management. I couldn’t be happier. Go for it! You’re not backing down, you’re looking after YOU. As black women, we must do that for ourselves.

likehelpful

If your job is causing anxiety and tears, it is most definitely not worth staying. As someone mentioned above, reflect on the reasons why you started to pursue other opportunities. Also, understand that an employee that stays with a company for longer than 2 years, decreases their earning potential by 50% in the long run. That Forbes article from 2014, is still relevant to this day. Right now, this market is being called the great resignation because employees are leaving in mass, for many reasons. Your mental health is key when it comes to your work environment because remember, you spend 40 hours a week with these people. I am a firm believer in doing whatever is best for you and never allowing yourself to become attached to the people, the employer, only your long term career goals. I hope this has helped and as someone who’s spent countless hours (over a period of time) crying in the bathroom (with 2 former employers), do whatever is in your best interest for self. 🙂

likehelpful

Plot twist…pretend to be a little (or a lot) less smart than you really are. They’ll feel safer when you go that route. You might also feel safer because you will free your brain to work on a side hustle that might allow you to eventually leave them for good.

funny

If it’s more pay, clear career progression then go!!

These people are not worth your tears ❤️

Related Posts

Executive ladies, when asked in an interview “tell me about yourself “ what is the basic script you use and what is the best practice in terms of duration?

like

Looking for recommendations on financial modeling courses (paid) that I can take for 3 statements/operating model, valuations, M&A, & LBO. Have been getting interviews with banks (3 in 2 months) but I come up short with the modeling experience (and weak on the technicals too). I’m thinking doing a modeling course will help with the no modeling experience + update my technicals? Thanks.

like

Say you're hiring for a Communications Specialist. What questions would you ask candidates in an interview?

like

I’m work Operations for ML and am looking at Investment Banking roles at ML in New York, any advice when applying that could help me?

Hi Fishes,
Can anyone tell me about EY FT-GBS ? What kind of work they do and what should I expect in the interviews?
TIA

like

Transferring from audit to FDD. How do I study for the interviews? Is there any resources I can use to pass the case interviews? What are some types of questions for the behavioral interviews?

like

Hi all. Can you share some details about the CSG senior associate role? Is CSG the same practice as Turnaround/ Restructuring practice or is it a different domain? I am currently applying for the CSG role and wanted to learn more about this

Whoever said employers don’t care about grades and transcripts after your first job was a liar. Every lateral position that I’ve applied to as a 3rd year has requested transcripts. Why do we lie and tell grads that employers don’t check transcripts when they do. My coworker, a 5th yr, had to submit his transcripts also to lateral job. Side note - it speaks volume when multiple associates are trying to lateral at the same time

like

I have attained the interview at Accenture for business analyst profile, have given all the situational & behavioural based answers, i felt that i have already selected as it went well but recieved the mail stating that I have not cleared the technical skills round, Just don't know where i went wrong? Anyone faced the same that we felt that we have given our best such gut feeling that we already made it & then we received the mail that we have not selected for the same! It hurts right 🫥

like

Any stats on how many people get past 1st phone screening case interview with McK? Also if it’s phone does it mean no charts?

like

Hi Fishes,
BA profile. YOE 8+

I have cleared Nagarro's aptitude test, soon interview will get schedule. Please help me with the interview details so that I can prepare for it.

like

I am interviewing for a new IT Manager position. I started putting out soft feelers and then hit the hunt harder. The problem: I have one offer and need to give an answer by next Wednesday. I have two other opportunities that are in final steps but probably won’t have offers by next Wednesday. Both of the other offers will be higher pay but clearly are uncertain for offers. Do I accept the offer I have, which is a good one or wait for the other two to finalize and possibly miss out altogether?

like

I have a first round interview at TikTok for a head of business development role. I REALLY want the job but don’t want to price myself out or under…does anyone know of a range?

like

I'd love an opportunity to work for the federal government in contracting or procurement but have found it difficult to get selected for an interview. What's the catch?

like

Hey all, ~7 years I've been working with fixed income analytics (duration, spread, etc) and perf attribution for institutional inv mgmt firm with close to $400B aum.

I'm being laid off in a couple months. Should I say I'm being laid off in interviews? Or is that a negative? I get severance if I stay the whole time so ideally I can time it. Have finance degree, CFA charter.

Most of work has been IG, but also some HY, EM and equity. Want to go into equity research/PM- worried I'm pigeonholed

like

Anyone who can help me on impact analytics fast fashion case study??? Thanks in advance..

like

Experience with vestas data analyst interview ?

like

Anyone have any advice for what to expect for stern interview and how to prepare? I’m really nervous!

like

What kind of questions are asked in tech interviews around respect? I’ve done a Google but haven’t found much.

like

Had a recruiter reach out to me on LinkedIn about a Business Development role with GrowthPlug (tech sales). Meeting tomorrow for an informational interview. I’ve never done this before so does anyone have any advice for how to prepare and what sort of questions to ask/expect to be asked? Any tips are welcome. Thanks!

More Posts

Unpopular opinion (maybe): The GME efforts have done to two things 1) reduced capital flow into shorts (few %age points) 2) any short reports being released are actually having the opposite effect - saw FUBO get hit yesterday by Wolfgang research and it bolted upwards

like

What are the best mid-late game weapons for a faith build? Feel like my winged scythe +8 is starting to get outscaled in Leyndell, but idk if that’s just part of the difficulty curve

like

What’s the best low calorie, high protein snack?

Background- In quarantine I’ve been intermittent fasting &calorie counting for a few months, and still working out in the mornings. My workout has usually been a 3-4 mile run and I’ve definitely gotten leaner but I’m now trying to add in more strength training, and so I feel like I should be getting protein after my workouts.

Any advice on where to go from here appreciated too!

like

Is there a fishbowl or consultants gaming discord? If not, would anybody use it if I created it?

Hi
I'm looking for job opportunities in data engineering/analysis. I have 1YoE in ETL tools like Azure Data Factory and LTI's in-house tool. I'm proficient in SQL and python. I'm a 2021 graduate from IIT Kharagpur and am actively looking for a job shift.

like

No one beats McDonald’s! ABSOLUTELY NO ONE! They’re like the old frat boys that show up to the party and think they still got it but they are really the creepy uncles.

likehelpful

Looking for Apple, Google, YouTube, Beats, Amazon referrals, TIA!

like

Anyone know how fast uscis Texas service Center is processing visa extensions ?

like
like

I remember when I first started working on my thesis project. My adviser asked me to get some funding for it, but he didn't give me any advice about how to do that. He just told me that if I wanted money for my project, I'd have to go through some kind of committee process and submit an application for funding from them. Sure enough, after weeks of writing applications and waiting around for responses from the committee members (who were always too busy), I eventually got approved for funding!

like

Please help - what are some reasons for sudden chronic constipation and natural remedies?

like

My test anxiety and fear of failure is so bad and I truly think it’s what’s held me back from getting the CPA done. but i’m at a point where I need and want to do it. any tips? I have diagnosed

like

I'm into Salesforce dev, quite curious abt the product based firms. What's the type of work we have there, timings, work life balance, growth opportunities, new learnings, up to date with latest features etc.
I'm working in a Consulting firm and hope to switch to a Product based soon. Not sure if it'll be a good idea. Got 7 years into Consulting in Big Fours.
Can someone help me with the difference between Product based / Service Based / Consulting Firms based on all above mentioned parameters.

likehelpful
like

Quick and dirty choc soufflé - creme anglaise not pictured

Post Photo
like

Hi fishes,
What questions shall I expect during the VP round for Genpact??
Please help.

like

Those familiar with Amway and Primarica. What is your honest view or opinions on using those as an investment or generating passive income? I personally feel its a bit of a scam. Thoughts?

like

Why are dog owners acting as though Santa Monica and Venice are doggie beaches? I have seen so many loose dogs and my daughter ended up in dog poo twice. We have doggie beaches for a reason. It’s disgusting and illegal and I don’t want loose dogs running around as I sunbathe.

likeupliftingfunny

Additional Posts in Black Girl Magic ✨💫

Hello, I currently have a job offer from a small consulting firm that doesn’t include an increase in pay from what I make now. I currently work for the govt as an Engineer. The new job is for a Sr. Associate specializing in cost analysis. When switching fields with no prior experience, is it common not to see an inc in base salary?

like

Has anyone applied to Corepower’s BIPOC Teacher Training scholarship before?

like

Any self-help books you ladies recommend/ have left an impact on you?

Please share below 😊

like

Can anyone recommend a SPF moisturizer that doesn't give the grey mask look? It's the only reason why I don't wear it.

smart

Anybody work in HR and can provide tips on negotiating discretionary bonus?

like

Did anyone watch Candice Owen’s 18 minute rant?

like

Hello 🐠ies!
Asking for help, my sister has lived at my parents’ for 24 y and they’ve always taken care of her. She’s about to leave home for her grad and she just got a loan to pay for all her expenses for the next 3 y. The money only arrived 3 w ago. She hasn’t even left yet and my parents have noticed online deliveries and spending receipts. We are worried that she might empty her account by year 1 at that rate. But just telling her to be careful doesn’t help. Cont’d

like

Any of you have a nose piercing, like a super small one? How is it received on your projects? I want one but still thinking about it.

like

😞 feeling dejected. Soooo many interview rounds. Connecting so well. And once again, no go. At least I knew not to tell anyone this time so I can fail in private

like

Have yall ever been in a situation where you were in someone's wedding, but they weren't in yours? Or vice versa. Just wondering how that affected your friendship with that person

like

Does anyone stays in Houston and in the middle of preparing for a software engineer interview at FAANG and is also interested in meeting up and solving leetcode ?

like

No caption is necessary

Post Photo
likeupliftingsmartfunny

Can we talk about angry black woman guilt? I always feel bad for calling someone out for something bc it seems like I could've been nicer about it. But is not changing my behavior and trying (contd)

like

I really want to learn how to braid my own hair. Youtube isn’t cutting it because I need hands on training 😩

like

So I keep applying for leadership roles (supervisor and manager level). Keep making it to final interviews and I am not chosen. The feedback I get is they were very impressed with my interviews and they forward my resume to there colleagues for another leadership opportunity and I end up with the same results. They do include that they went with someone that had mgmt experience. The emails aren’t generic I may add. However I am not sure what else I can do to land a spot? Thoughts please!

like

I’ve been reading more about how there’s a difference between how men socialize and how women socialize at work. There’s a school of thought that says that men are “friends” outside of work with their coworkers so they are more likely to lift each other at work. Women however are more likely to separate their work friends and their social friends. I think I fall in this group. Cont in comment

like

Does anyone have any advice on finding a mentor? I’m a 1st generation college graduate and fairly new in my accounting career. I’ve been networking and wanting to reach out to people but I don’t want to come off wrong.

like

Anyone live in Amsterdam?

Moving there in January and wanted a pov from black women. Moreso about lifestyle things like finding hair salons/braiders, nail salons, haircare in stores or beauty supply stores, etc...

Not sure if I need to ship a bunch of that stuff with me when I go or if it's easily accessible there

like

Any ladies currently at Deloitte with positive feedback on the company/culture/career progression? TIA!

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Send download link to your phone

OR

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Messaging rates may apply

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal