Hi all, can anyone point to good starting point resources for a same sex lesbian couple? My partner is sure she wants she carry via donor sperm but I want to make sure we are thoroughly exploring all options. Thanks!

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I don’t have any single resource to point you too… my wife and I just did a ton of reading and talking to other lesbian couples before making the decision. If you end up going the donor route, feel free to message me and happy to tell you tips and how we made it work! Best of luck ❤️

FertilityIQ is a good site for researching clinics and success rates of IUI vs IVF and info about donor embryos/sperm/eggs. I only used the freely accessible content on their site.

If you’re in the US, the CDC’s ART data (Google that) has stats on clinical outcomes for IVF.

I would start by talking to her OB/GYN - get a preconception visit to check some basic labs - and ask who they recommend for Reproductive Endocrinology, midwife options (for home insemination, if you/she prefer), and counseling. You can likely find a therapist in the area who focuses on reproductive questions, like whose egg and who carries and how to pick a donor and how to handle the emotions involved.

Donor sperm involves a variety of choices: known donor vs from sperm bank; what attributes to look for in donor; etc.

Congrats on trying to build your family!

- A mom with a child conceived by donor sperm

Agree with these! Also consider ICI at home which is what my wife and I did! Super private, comfortable and easy

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