Hi all. Have a 2.5 yo and baby due early May. Husband works full time but will get 2 weeks off at first. Any experienced mamas have ideas of how to balance 2.5 yo and newborn? ...contd

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Start planning now, have a set schedule with your 2.5 yr old (and think about how you want feeding to fit in this schedule) and activities they can do alone. Order things on amazon now and break them out as needed. Also make sure your husband is very clear on his role, how to do everything from set up the activities for your child to putting together pump parts. I’m currently in week 5 with a newborn and almost 3 yr old, feel free to ping me if you need any help/encouragement!

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A new baby w a toddler is already overwhelming...throw in a pandemic brings it to a whole other level. Reach out if you need anything!!! I second what other people said below, give in to screen time and get baby on a schedule as soon as you can...everyone on a schedule including your husband! I used Babywise w first and working on it w number 2 now.

I have a newborn and 2 year old. If your 2 year old is anything like mine, he doesn’t want to do anything by himself so introduce them to Sesame Street :) I assume your husband might be working from home after paternity leave if this is all still going on. Get your newborn on a semblance of a schedule and set when your husband will need to take breaks from work to help entertain the toddler during a feeding, put someone down for a nap, etc. Having my infant on a schedule has made the insanity slightly more predictable.

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Thank you! That is amazing re your newborn sleeping. I didn’t even think about the pediatrician visits ugh. Was just thinking about the hospital. That does really suck.

I’m sure it will be unpopular,but use the tv if you need to to keep toddler occupied

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Didn't read other replies, but here is my experience. I had a 22 month old and a newborn and no help at all (no family, no friends, and my spouse didn't have any kind of paternity leave). My husband was adamant that we take my 22 month old out of daycare while I was out on maternity leave. It was tough! And hard and I resented him for so long because of it, BUT it is doable. We went to playgrounds, hikes, and just moved around a lot. I used the Moby baby carrier and did everything with my older child. The first 5 weeks they sleep alot and need to nurse like every hour, but back to sleep again. I had like 5 outfits in my car for blowouts, and always a pack of wipes and diapers for emergencies.
I admit to ignoring my newborn of I was in the middle of bedtime with my older (not too long, but like 10/15 min).
It's hard, but you will make it work. Good luck and congratulations! They will become best friends eventually!

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How nice of him to make that decision unilaterally. I would def be resentful- what a jerk!

I was in the same boat with a 2 year old and newborn. Had to plan each day with different blocks of activities, coordinated with the baby schedule. Good news was that baby slept a lot in the early days and loved to be worn, so it wasn't too bad to spend focused time with the elder. If you can, I'd stock up on new toys, educational apps, and allow for more screen time. Now I'm doing the same thing again, but with a newborn, 3 year old and 5 year old, during a pandemic.

You got this!

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Wow you’re amazing ❤️

Just remember, if you have days where all that got done was everyone got to eat and had their diapers changed when needed - that itself can absolutely count as a successful day!

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Was expecting 2 yo to be in daycare but clearly that isn’t happening. Don’t feel comfortable with nanny either given COVID. Maybe grandparents but only after we’ve been out of the hospital for a while...don’t want to put them at risk.

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