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Hi all, I’m one of the two BIPOC at an ad agency and I’m one of the first WOC ever hired at the agency. We’ve recently started to have diversity and inclusion trainings, and some of those trainings have been emotionally draining for me. Wondering if somebody has ever been in a similar situation and how you’ve mentally prepared for it?

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DEI can be very draining...to help us, help you, can you share how has it been affecting you? Is it lack of support? Or planning trainings? Etc.

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It’s emotionally draining, I understand these trainings are needed, but it’s difficult because a lot of these trainings are mostly targeted/ created as 101 classes for white people. Not saying that there may be BIPOC member who may also need those classes.. but for me and based on my personal experiences navigating the system, I leave the trainings feeling tired and frustrating.

I’m on the same boat expect I have to deliver the trainings/facilitate the conversations. I am still working on figuring out how to mentally prepare since I understand it’s importance...but it’s just a lot more draining as a POC.

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Yeah I did fine the first couple of trainings, but once we got to the part of ‘understanding privilege’ it was too much to deal with people’s reactions, as well as expectations of hearing my opinions on it... it felt a bit too violent.

I’m on a team recently in charge of this and yes, can be draining. We mapped out a bunch of stuff we want to do but pacing ourselves to two things per quarter because or else it can feel like a lot. Feel free to DM me for problem solving or just venting, too!

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We did too, it feels like it might be a good idea to have separate trainings for BIPOC folks and white people. Since my work place is 99% white, it didn’t seem like a good idea to do this, but I spoke with the facilitators and they gave me the option of removing myself or keep myself muted if it was too overwhelming.

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