Hi All, I’m the same girl who posted about getting raped a month ago.
Last night I got the call from the detective that the DA rejected my case and made me close the case.
Ever since, I have been getting feelings of being a failure because I failed all the other victims who went through this. If not that, then I get feelings where maybe I hallucinated and assumed the whole deed and the rape didn’t even actually happen.
Has anyone gone through this? How did you deal with it?

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Hey. First off sorry you’re going through this, this sounds very tough and exhausting and should happen to no one. I encourage you to write down your thoughts to help you express some feelings and remember how you’re doing. It is your right to continue to pursue holding the person that did this accountable, and know that the DA rejection doesn’t mean you’re lying or not remember correctly. Objectively, the reason these cases are so awful, among other things, is because they’re so hard to prove, right or wrong as it is. Hold strong and seek support of others, you shouldn’t have to go through this alone.


These types of cases are so hard to prove in a criminal case. The standard is “beyond a reasonable doubt.” That is so, so, so hard to prove. It does not mean that it did not happen or that what you experienced was not real. It just means they don’t have enough evidence to bring the case in a court of law.

I am so sorry. This is awful and is one of the reasons so many rape survivors don’t report in the first place. I am so proud of you for filing the police report. You did your part!

Please continue with your therapy and work with survivors groups. They will be your best resources for healing. Sending you my love.


I also reported my assault and I was basically told to go to a therapist and was mocked by the detective. Every family member doubted me said I sounded like a conspiracy theorist. These people don’t know what they’re talking about because it didn’t happen to them.

There are ways to heal from within. Dont doubt you’re reality. The human brain is amazingly sophisticated and when it’s under attack it knows - you’re not hallucinating.

Surround yourself with people who’ve been through what you’ve been through. That’s what has been helping me.

You’re not alone! I’m Here for you!


I haven’t been through this but I hear you, I see you, and I’m here for you. I’m so so sorry this is happening to you🥺 You’re not a failure.

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