Hi all! So I made the switch to industry 8 weeks ago and took on a completely new role (I’ve got about 6.5 YOE.)I love the org and my new supervisor, however I got paired with a colleague who has made it clear she doesn’t enjoy working with me and has serious issues with my working style. She’s a very senior and experienced person so feels bad that she thinks so negatively of me already. I want to improve, but it will take some time as I’m still relatively new. (Cont)

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If you were “teamed up” with someone who is not your supervisor the implication is she is managing you, by without the authority, so she could be bitter about that. It is possible that the reason you were teamed up with her is your boss wants you to learn her job. Your colleague may be threatened by this, and also quite possibly difficult to work with. You’re in a tough spot. Teams have phases of development - forming, storming, norming, performing. You’re likely storming at the moment. Stay focused on your work, try not to take her critiques personally, take direction from your supervisor, and hang in there.

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Had a similar situation and the coworker eventually ended leaving the team. In chatting with the manager after the dust had settled, my work highlighted how inefficient she was. She was a team of one for years so was able to get away with the whole “act busy and talk about how hard things are.” I came in and ironed out the issues she was having in a half day, making her look really bad. Meanwhile, i wasn’t trying to do that intentionally. I was actually so proud to. Show her how i found a way to make her work life better and felt blindsided by how angry she was at me. It was a valuable lesson to learn at the beginning of my career in terms of how sometimes great work is a double edged sword. That being said - i have no patience for that personality type anymore.

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(Cont) My real issue is she is very condescending in the way she speaks to me and told me I am untrustworthy and don’t think. I want to take the feedback and constructive but to be honest it’s killing my self esteem and making me dread work. Should I request a new role so they can find someone better suited to her style? I am new so I also don’t want to be a quitter. Any thoughts greatly appreciated!

Yeah 😕 it’s a new job, definitely not going out of my way to be untrustworthy

Has she specified what exactly she doesn’t like about your work style? Is there a reason for her to feel threatened? And where does she rank vis a vis your supervisor?

Yep- we were owning different pieces of the work and after discussing with my supervisor I took a different route on my side of the work and she was quite upset Because “it isn’t what we talked about.” I learned from my perspective it may be something minor but to her it’s a big deal. So I learned my lesson. Just feels a bit odd because she isn’t my manager and it had little impact to her part of the work, so maybe our communication styles are different

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