Hi all. Today is one of those days where I am just really tired of proving myself. I'm a woman POC and the only brown person at my small firm. Owners are subtly racist and the men often treat me like their assistant. I also make a lot less than the male junior even though I have more YOE than him. Days like this really make me want to stop being a lawyer. I don't think I will ever find a firm where I am not treated this way.

I’ll be asking my last job for a letter of recommendation but I’m not sure who to ask. My boss, who is lovely and would write an amazing LOR. Or my boss's boss who would put minimal effort in but it would have more weight.

So… I am working on a project with outside consultants that wraps up this week. I’m feeling some kind of “vibe” with one of the male consultants and I am wondering how to figure out if I am imagining things or whether there is actually something there. He lives is another state and it doesn’t seem likely our paths will cross again.

Today no one came into our restaurant and my boss started crying. Do I... comfort them? Leave them be?

Working at a company and they can’t seem to hold on to their female, black and people of color employees. I blinked and 3 of the people who were in my onboarding class were either fired or they left. For context I’ve been in company less than a year and there are people who have been in the company 25yrs. I’m thinking of cutting loose before it gets to my turn.

My old employer asked me if I wanted to come back to the company as a manager. The pay will likely be much better and the position holds more responsibility than I’ve had before, so overall it would be a step up. The issue is I left the company because of an abusive manager who constantly put me down and made me feel like I wasn’t doing anything right. If I come back I’d be working under her again. I’m torn because the opportunity is great but the stress was awful. Continued in comments…

Anyone have recommendations on briefcases? Looking to replace my backpack, really only carry my laptop, charger, mouse and not much else.

A direct competitor just posted a VP position 1 level above my current position. Currently my company does not have a VP and I report to a SVP. I currently do the job of a VP. I've asked to be made a VP and know that it will eventually happen but my leadership is dragging their feet. How do I broach this topic without sounding like I'm threatening to jump ship?

Is it weird that I’m the only one at our office that enjoys suspenders? I always get compliments, and can’t seem to figure out how it’s not a thing...

Interview with a startup tomorrow - thoughts on attire? They dress the range of business casual to tshirts.

How to professionally break manipulative work relationships with your co workers and management?

Hi all! I was asked coordinate a local happy hour for my team. The issue I’m having is that I’m currently pregnant and am not sure if I’m comfortable to hang out with strangers. What’s the most professional way to say no without hurting feelings / burning bridges? Or should I suck it up and go?

How do you deal with extremely competitive coworkers?

What are your reasons to have regular one-on-one with your boss’s boss?

When you get flagged by compliance for a typo telling a coworker you "stopped by a bar to take shits" instead of "shots"...

How do you tackle a situation where you know your immediate leader is throwing you under the bus but showing it as a collective setback?

Has reaching out to someone within a company you want to work for ever worked in your favor? I want to be noticed, but not pestering, and am unsure if it would hurt my chances.

Lateral associate question: when submitting my conflicts questionnaire to clear conflicts, do I need my firm’s prior approval of the disclosures I’m making? I’m not sure how this works…

Ever work for a manipulative micro manager with a better than you attitude? How the heck did you deal?

I think there should be more males caretakers in this world. Some of my clients just feel more comfortable with a guy and it's kind of sad how often they say I'm the only male they could find.

100% waterproof shoe recommendations that can be used for work?

What maximum Persistent can give to 7 years experience and what band they will provide.

What is the standard level progression at EY-P?

My H1-B expires in April 2019. I am traveling abroad this December. Can I ask the immigration office to extend my visa for next 3 years prior to me traveling in December? Has anyone had a sim exp?

Any leads on good freelancing websites with respect to NodeJs Dev? I came across freelancer website but no response from any client till now. And also please drop some suggestions regarding good portfolio for a freelancer and how's your journey as a freelancer. Thanks in advance 😁

Where can I get good and affordable baby clothes 0-3 months?

How much Package one can expect from Dassault Systems for C++ Developer with 4 year of experience.

If an insurer wrongly denies coverage for a property loss and business interruption claim, can the insurer still rely on the policy provisions to limit the type and extent of the recoverable damages?

What do you do to get your team to be more inclusive? New on the team and tried everything including invite for drinks. No joy

How do you guys describe what you do when you don't want to tell people you're in IB without lying?
I'm really sick of people assuming I'm rich if I say I'm in IB, but don't want to completely lie either.

Anyone have any feedback on if torntoni is a good spot? Been asked there now but never been

I’m the junior at a company that loves to fall back on sex sells type marketing. I was tired of the cheap strategy before I started in the career and I definitely hate it now. Is it ever going away?

I feel like being a consultant has made my standards for finding a significant other go up astronomically lol now I expect them to be a similar standard as my coworkers which are smart, pretty, social and also same level of religiousness as me. I understand why everyone struggles to find an SO now

Im a RN and took on a new role working in Home Health. I chose this position because My husband & I recently moved to PA with our 2 kids (1&3), with no family available for his residency program with a hospital. If you know that life, I’m pretty much the main parent for our kids. I don’t want to work in the hospital/floor work anymore; nor do I believe the hrs are flexible enough. I need a job that’s flexible for the kids but pays >$44/hr. Maybe remote or hybrid? Please help w/ suggestions.

When do equity awards get paid out?

I just received an offer from BNY Mellon, and as per their terms and conditions mentions BNY can solely decide to reject or not accept our resignation letter, even though the notice says 60 days? Is it even legally allowed?

Can we never leave them after handing over the resignation letter until they agree as well?

Currently working in Cyber Incident Response looking to move to CISO advisory, security strategy, or management consulting. If any of you guys have referrals, please let me know!

Is anyone experiencing a reduction of billable hours due to less assignments?

When do y’all start looking for jobs—when you’re fed up or do you always keep your eyes peeled. I ask because I realize there are different approaches out there. My non-attorney friend doesn’t hate her job but applies to a few jobs every month. Do other folks here do this? For some reason I feel guilty for applying to jobs when I’m not 100% ready to leave…yes I recognize this mindset can be damaging 😅

How do you deal with mentoring burnout? Recruiting season has started and I’m already exhausted by the emails from law students. I want to pay it forward, but also feeling like I don’t have the energy to invest in all these students.

Does anyone else feel uncomfortable when interviewees ask about diversity at your firm/office? I grew up in a very white area, and I don’t really notice/get bothered by lack of diversity. This recruitment cycle, a lot of non-white students asked if the lack of diversity at my office bothers me and asked why I think it’s so white. I feel like they expect me to have a very academic/astute response, but I just shrug and say I don’t notice it.

How have you found mentors outside of your firm?

Quick poll: Do you post your headshot on the firm website? Yes or no - if no, why not?

Most disturbing case you've taken on?

Are financial advisors worth it? anyone have experience with Axa Advisors and paying 1.5% management fee?

Ketanji did not come to play! Came out of the gate ready to fight and turn these racist arguments on their heads. The way she was dropping 14th Amendment bombs on that man made me so happy. And this is only her first day. I just hope they protect her well.

Can anyone here please recommend an employment law attorney? Thanks

Any of you 3-6 PQE associates have your own clients? I would really love to do some business development with tangible results. I want to have my own clients or atleast bring some to the firm. What has worked for you? Also looking for advice from partners who may have started BD efforts early in their career.

I'm in a group where I get great reviews each year and earn praise from clients, but partners don't invest much in me or let me work on the "good" deals (I always get the scraps). I'm also the only black attorney in my group, which may or may not be relevant. I doubt I have a chance of making equity partner, though I also don't want to. If you were me, would you go to a competitor just to stick it to people here? Or mail it in, shoot for a NEP/counsel-type gig, collect paychecks, and coast?