Hi, bf and I agreed on a mutual breakup. It’s been a month of me exercising the “no contact rule” and he hasn’t reached out to me either however (contd)

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Move on. I broke up with an ex and chose to just completely cut off all communications even though he continued to reach out. I just ignored it because it was too easy to slip back into our dysfunctional relationship. I did think about him but chose to stay firm on the no contact. This helped tremendously because the next man that came into my life was my husband. Stay strong - trust me!

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Ditto same story. I believe in the “stay firm and no contact” rule. Next guy I met I married him 2 days ago 🙂 after a 4.5 years relationship

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Nice testimony BA! I’m on my first day of no contact! I can feel the pain in my chest 😩

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Thank you all for your responses, man I absolutely love this bowl!!

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I saw something online that the two of us can strongly relate to and wanted to share it with him. Can I do that? Or still have to keep my distance ? Also a mutual friend of ours told me he’s already found someone new.

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NO

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Agree, try to move on, get busy, you just feeling lonely, distract yourself from these thoughts. He moved on and you should too... be strong!

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