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I got married in 2020 and me and my husband did a first look. If it’s important to you I would insist. It was special to have those moments together before the wedding because during it there is so much going on and you dont get that special moment
I’ve seen the bride. I’m talking about the “first look” - the first time we will see each other that day
That helps and clarifies alot. I was worried for you as it could have been Bashir from across the border in Toba Tek Singh who was trying to catfish you. 😂
Literally everyone I know took their wedding photos (including first look) before the baraat. I've never heard of anything like the groom can't see the bride. When else are you supposed to have a photoshoot of just the two of you in your wedding outfits? There's not a lot of time usually between the baraat and the ceremony and honestly, these are important photos and you don't want to be rushed. My family typically has also done bride/groom photos before everything and then maybe immediately before the baraat, we've had family photos with the couple before the ceremony since they typically go straight into lunch after the ceremony and people disperse.
I'd definitely encourage you to work with your photographer to schedule time prior to the events to do all the wedding photos with your bride. My friend's first look photos are some of her favorites. She even did one with her dad.
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What’s a first look?
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This is on the conservative side. I am Hindu nothing like that in my family/extended family. 80s and 90s both sets of cousins got to do what they want.
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You have not ever seen her before? Bin dekhey hi Shaadi!
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Wait….What? You have not seen your bride or talked to her?
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It’s your wedding and you both should do what feels right to you two. Also you are a desi male who has far more privilege in these situations compared to your soon to be wife. Please use it to your advantage.
It is as normal as you want it to be. Indian weddings are not just about the bride and the groom. Keep everyone happy (within reason) - make it memorable without a bunch of pissed off relatives and immediate family - go with the flow and don’t impose your individualism - it’s a family celebration- let them have their moment / say as well and it will all be good. You and the wife will have the rest of your lives to bash all of them 😁
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In theory yes it’s great to try and include everyone but this is not such a situation and desi families take advantage of respect and obedience. It’s minor enough for everyone else but matters to OP. I honestly don’t think this is not significant enough to make family members upset. Try insisting otherwise OP