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hi everyone, my whole family lives internationally so ive never been to an american wedding before. i just received a wedding invite with a plus one invitation. what is the etiquette if i recently broke up with my ex? is it still fine to bring a date (friend or tinder date) or should i go solo? i know every guest costs money so i want to be mindful

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Current bride here planning a wedding. We gave plus ones to those who we know are in a relationship. Would rather not have random people at our - already condensed because of Covid - wedding. I had to cut our guest list by more than half so everyone invited is someone who means a lot to us. I don’t need a Tinder date taking up a space I could have allocated to another friend.

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I planned my wedding thinking I would prefer my guests to have fun. So I invited people I like and gave single (unmarried) a plus one. That way they could bring whoever they wanted to bring. A date, a friend, a parent...someone to hang out with. I think you should text the bride and ask, assuming you are close (you probably are, that's why you're invited)...or just RSVP including your plus one's name (but that person needs to be someone you know, not a tinder rando, either a friend or your...sibling or anyone you like to hang out with)

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You will get about 15 different responses to this I would think. So from my view if the bride & groom don’t know about your break up they were trying to do you a favor to include your prior significant other who they were aware of. If I were them I wouldn’t want you rolling in with a random. They only have limited capacity so every head matters to them and they sacrificed someone else on their list to give you the +1 for what they thought was your significant other. You can ignore all this if it is a 700 person event and no HC restrictions.

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If they gave you a +1 then it’s your call. Just make sure your gift covers two people showing up. I’ve had friends give +1s because the individual wouldn’t know many people at the wedding so you don’t need to analyze too much.

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We gave +1 to every guest at our wedding, so no one would have to come alone if they didn’t want to. Yes, every plate costs money, but they’ll also want you to have a nice time, so don’t feel bad about bringing someone. That being said, make it someone you know, and not an awkward tinder date…

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If you have the plus one you can bring a guest! If they specifically invited your ex by name, you should let them know it would be someone else and make sure it’s not a random person. If you don’t want to bring one, you don’t have to!

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Same situation happened to me at a wedding I attended recently. My SO couldn’t come due to work, so I brought a family member instead. I cleared it with the bride first but did feel some animosity. Or maybe it was just her emotions were high…idk. But I’m very happy I did because I didn’t know anyone else there and if I didn’t bring someone I would have been so lonely. I’m planning a wedding right now and giving all single people plus ones since if I personally didn’t know anyone besides the bride and groom and wasn’t given a plus one, I wouldn’t have gone. At least bringing someone gives you someone to talk to.

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Your call. I see +1 as a way to make sure guests feel comfortable as well. You won’t be spending much time with the couple, so good to have someone to hang out with, especially if you don’t know a ton of the others there. I wouldn’t bring a total random person though. Friend you’re comfortable with is probably best. You’re responsible for who you bring and would need to entertain them if they knew no one else

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Agree, they gave you a plus one so use it if you want, but you certainly don’t have to…but not sure if COVID limiting numbers should be taken into account, I haven’t been to a wedding since the Before Times. I also disagree with the above comment about adjusting your gift, I think you should always give what you can/want . It’s a gift, not payback for your meal. I’d hate to have someone come alone to my wedding because they felt like they couldn’t “afford” to bring someone.

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Ask about the +1 - some weddings are planned down the the exact details. Some weddings are planned for chaos. Most are planned in between

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Big wedding? Bring a date. Small wedding? Go solo.

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Do you have lots of friends who will be attending? If not, keep the plus one. They chose to have the wedding, you can choose to have fun. There is nothing worse than being an awkward loner at someone’s wedding.

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