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Hi everyone! So I'm kinda questioning my gender views of myself and I need help and education on what I'm feeling. In essence, I can't discern whether I'm a cisgender, straight female that isn't always super feminine, or if I'm really closer to non-binary, or have fluid gender expression (is that correct?) Will add examples/reasoning why I'm questioning this below. In essence I can't tell if this is a personality trait or gender question

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I think the gender non-binary folx in the Bowl can speak from their experiences directly to help with your questions but I want to say WOOHOO to you for starting the process of discovering yourself 😊 it takes courage!

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I’m not educated enough to help with this, but wanted to say I’m really happy for you, and I hope others with more knowledge can help you on your journey! 🤗

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Ok. So I identify as a female. But there's parts of typical femininity I don't identify with at all - or I will in phases. For example, I went years feeling weird wearing a dress. Or I only would at work. I still don't really feel like myself wearing like flowers or pink. Growing up I was so embarrassed to wear pink or frilly stuff my mom would make me wear. In a group of preppy woman I don't feel like I fit in or like I'm one of them. I love wearing makeup though? I have tons of lgbtq+ friends. I prefer mixed groups of friends and almost connect with men more quickly. I rarely have total girls days, or girls outings. My demeanor is I think a mix of both genders. I've never hesitated to call myself a woman, but I really don't identify with alot of woman traits. I have never really wanted kids. The thought of child birth seems so foreign to me for some reason. I'm weird with jewelry. I go through phases. I almost always end up taking it off because I feel too girly with it on. Thoughts? Sorry if this is a really stupid question. I've never really questioned until I've seen others coming out recently and I've done more reading on what gender fluidity is. Maybe it could explain how I haven't always felt like I fit in with a group of girls? Or maybe I'm connecting dots that don't make sense. I grew up in a really conservative environment that looked down on lgbtq+, so the window for exploration was never there growing up.

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