Hi fellow fishes - I’m 27M (from INDIA, in NY since 2017). I’m thinking of starting to think about marriage - but don’t know where to start from?

I want to start now because I would ideally like...

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I want to say two things.

First, BCG1 - I feel you brother - 29 M here. I am in the exact same boat as you. I am finding it incredibly hard to find someone to date - I am clear I want to date an Indian girl, and want to be with an Indian long term. The relevant sample set in India is very hard to pursue as I cannot visit India every month to spend time with them to get to know more. The relevant population in US is very challenging to pursue as well, although not impossible, due to - 1/limited availability due to geographic spread - people are highly passionate about where they live, and do not want to get out of comfort zone - women have several options in most cities they live because there are likely more guys - both Indian/American/Others - you have to make a very strong case for a girl to consider you even if you’re willing to travel - I have personally done this 4 times. 2/ A sizeable Indian women population which came to US is highly educated and passionate about career - I have met several of them for whom getting married isn’t a top box priority - so that limits the set again. 3/ For a lot of women, nothing wrong with it, they actually prefer being with Americans for a variety of reasons - so there’s that.

If you want to talk more and do this search, feel free to DM me.

Before people start bashing me, I have nothing wrong against women - I am just stating my opinions. I think it’s absolutely fair to pursue people for a variety of reasons.

Second, to all the people who think this is funny/giving generic gyaan - you may be very smart and may have either chosen to ignore this problem, may not have faced it, or maybe particularly good at it - a lot of other folks aren’t. When I was 16, I wasn’t really trained to go ask out women in clubs, play guitar, instead I was studying for stupid competitive exams.

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...to date someone for a year before we confirm our approval of each other. Wondering if you guys take the online route? If yes, what websites.

I haven’t dated in a few years and felt that I had my whole life to swing by the right person. After my last break-up I decided to not run after love (after trying for some time) - but here I am trying perhaps to be realistic?

Any advice on how any of you in similar situations went about this?

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Oh for god's sake get a life

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It is funny someone who can move across the world don’t know (or search) what are the dating website around these days. I see this as no so cheese way (muted though) to ask for someone to date.

Why such a negative reply as If OP has no clue about google search.

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Dont plan too much, make yourself available and have an open mind, people in america don’t always date to marry, so your timeline may jot work for everyone . If you only want to date to marry, consider the online matrimonial route

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