[Serious] Hi fishes who went/are going to go abroad for studies, how do u make up your mind to leave ur parents and go that far, knowing very well u will only meet ur family like once a year forever ? :/

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In hindsight yes it seems sad but in the long run it's better for you if you want it. Video calls and calls are a great option. Atleast VC once a week. Then texting make a family group keep giving random updates, share memes, trust me even if they don't get the meme, they'll appreciate it plus then you can explain it to them which in 90% cases is cute :p

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If my family could afford to live without me working for a year, and if I had enough savings to get out, I would in a heartbeat. Idc about seeing my family once or twice a year tbh

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I love my family ZS10 😂 But would be perfectly fine living without them too

Following this post to see some good answers

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+1 have admits but confused because of the same reason

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What are you gonna do about it ? Thought anything ?

Great Question - Step 1 is acceptance, for both - your parents and yourself. You have to reason out with them why going to a foreign land is better for you and them in the long run. It could be a combination of better opportunities, better standard of living, etc. In my case they proposed the idea and I acted on it, I did have it in the back of my head that I'd someday step outside this comfort zone and go for my Master's abroad but they acted as catalysts in this process. They pushed me to go for it right after my undergrad as they saw tremendous value in it that way. It for sure is tough, to leave them and only see them once a year (twice if you're lucky). You can't even go back home on short notice because there could be some constraints in place. But the driving factor for sure has to be the overall big picture. Think of them being able to visit you, see how far you've come along, see how independent you become. Think of the times when you'd be able to take them to so many cool new places that they otherwise would not have been able visit/see. Bottomline, it's a sacrifice both, parents as well as the child, have to make - but to attain the things you desire for the better of all, sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone. I know this is probably too long, but hope this helps!

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Thanks, this was helpful.
In my case however, my parents (although completely supportive of what I genuinely wanna do), are themselves not very keen on me going that far. They never say it explicitly but I can feel it. If they were also outright supportive like your parents, I think my decision would have been easier 😪
As for me, I am not sure myself if I wanna go abroad for MBA genuinely only for the good opportunities, or is it just because all my friends are already in USA and I just wanna go there too. I mean lets be honest, seeing everything that they're doing there, their insta, who wouldnt wanna go abroad 😭
Anyway, I def dont wanna go if its only the 2nd reason, but its not that easy to figure all this out :/

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What do you mean by "family"? Just parents +siblings or more?

I'm an only child too, and I understand. But I'm choosing to leave, also, when we put in the effort, time and money to apply to those universities, we knew that this would be a possibility, right..
In life, we always have a choice, and this one is going to be difficult for you. Take your time and think through.

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