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Hi ladies. A birth control question. I take oral BC on time every day but I am struggling to feel comfortable with sex without a condom. I know BC is something like 99% effective but I am not ready for the repercussions of failure - whether raising a child or choosing not to, both are decisions I do not want to make. My partner is frustrated by this but defers to me and is willing to do whatever I'm comfortable with. I want to become comfortable without condoms. Any ideas?

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if you partner is frustrated that you can’t have sex without a condom because you aren’t comfortable then he can help by considering a vasectomy (which are reversible when he’s ready for kids). It’s not all on you to make sure you’re being safe, especially if he’s the one that really wants to skip the condoms. That being said I agree with the IUD comments, so talk to your OB

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Personally i would stick with the birth control and condoms. As a person who got pregnant as a surprise, ill say if you arent ready for it, dont take the risk. Whether thats iud and condom or pills and condom.

Side note, i dont trust IUDs to be better than condoms & i have heard too many stories of things going wrong with them. But either way - layer it up!

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👏 gotcha - thank you for clarifying! What you said in the follow up makes sense!

IUD. I felt that it reduced the human error (forgetting, travel, time zones) and gave me peace of mind. There are women who got pregnant with the IUD as well, but anecdotally it is much rarer.

Upside: nearly non existent periods. 🙂 (also anecdotal bc other women have the opposite)

Have a long chat with your gyno about your options either way.

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Birth control is a place for a belt and suspenders approach. Consequences of failure are too high and failure is real risk. Talk to your GYN to find risk level right for you.

https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/contraception/index.htm

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If you’re not comfortable with it, what’s the rush?

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Every guy I’ve been with has no problems with conforms. The ones that do are fukbois

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I have the Mirena IUD as primary BC - lasts 5 years and nothing more to remember. Then, I *also* am on continuous BC pill - primarily because it suppresses my period permanently but the additional peace of mind as secondary BC is a nice add-on benefit!

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