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Hi ladies, I need some advice on how to navigate/build a relationship with my fiance's family. Some of his siblings and family members are very standoffish and distant. For background, we are same race different culture. I'm very open and I've learned a lot from my fiance over the years. However, I believe his family still sees me as an outsider and they don't invite me to certain things. At times, it feels isolating and it makes me feel unwelcomed. They're also supposed to be in my wedding.

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Your fiancé should really help facilitate this relationship. He knows them best, so he can help explain if this behavior is just how they act or if more should be done for them to warm up to you. Since he’s more familiar with their culture, definitely bring it up to him in a positive way - “I want to be closer with your family, do you have any ideas for activities they might enjoy to do together?”

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Thank you for your response. I've tried this and I've also had a conversation with him. He stated that he noticed it as well and said that they have a small minded mentality. I reach out and invite them to things. I've been around the family for about 6 years as well, so I'm not new. An example of the behavior is when his twin sister recently had a house warming event. when their friends of the same culture were present I noticed that they didn't acknowledge me or pretended like they didn't know me. His twin has also made remarks about americans or "yankees" in front of me that made me feel awkward. Sometimes I get odd looks and people change the way they talk around me as if I can't understand their accent when I've been dating my fiance for 6 years...its becoming exhausting feeling like an outcast.

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