Hi ladies! I’ve been feeling down and behind in my career compared to my friends. We recently made career shifts and they moved to great firms in really prestigious roles and i’m super excited for them. But I can’t help but feel like I made a poor career choice steps behind compared to them. I know I am capable of attaining and performing well in the roles they have so I feel less excited about the role I have now. I’ve been looking at job openings. I shouldn't compare but it’s hard. Any advice?

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I felt this way when a few good friends from my start class made jumps to other firms/industries/grad school all in a short window. I was still at our original company like I’d missed the memo. Felt weird, like I was doing something wrong or like I wasn’t being ambitious enough. But when I thought about leaving, that didn’t make me excited and I still felt like I had a lot of potential at my company. I realized what I was envious of was that they were starting an adventure - I came to see that I wanted an adventure too but didn’t want to change jobs to get it...4 years later I’ve repositioned my role at the same company and am killing it, have moved cities and am loving it, and they are living their best lives, too. Figure out if you’re just hungry for change in your life generally or if you actually want to pivot at work. I asked myself “why” a LOT to understand what I was really feeling.

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