My husband and I have been married for several years now, and are both interested in starting a family. But if I'm honest, the idea of juggling pregnancy with grueling work hours and regular travel really stresses me out. Any advice or lessons learned there that folks could share?

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Biggest advice is don’t wait to start your family because of your company / career. If you and your husband are both emotionally ready and in a stable, healthy relationship. Go for it! Work can wait, your leaders will understand, and if they don’t - every firm / company is hiring right now, you can easily find one that will be supportive of your family and your career goals 💕

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Family > work. For me it had never been more clear.

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Honestly - you will figure it out. Don’t stress about it before it becomes a thing to worry about :) when the time comes you will find an answer that works for you and your family. Like PP said, plenty of companies are hiring. And sometimes you may be surprised at how supportive your current work can be.

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You'll make it work

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Thank you for the helpful comments! Two other follow up questions. When do you typically tell your teams you're expecting? Could anyone share examples of boundaries you set while expecting e.g., on work hours during first trimester when you tire out especially easily?

Do not think twice about setting firm hours for work and not breaking them. For example - 8a-6p, and true emergencies only on weekends. Like it’s go-live and you need to be available emergencies. Not, “can you review this PPT over the weekend so I can review it on Monday” emergencies.

Especially the first and third trimesters, you will be exhausted. Figure out a schedule that works for you, and stick to it by simply saying, “I don’t have the bandwidth for that,” or “I’m not available this weekend.” You don’t need to announce the schedule to your colleagues, just keep to it yourself by declining meetings and pushing back on work deadlines you can’t meet.

It might seem hard to do this, but it’s good practice for when the baby comes. You’ll have even more rigid hard stops for daycare pickup, possibly breastfeeding or pumping, bedtime routines, etc. So it’s good to figure out a system of setting boundaries and sticking to them now.

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