Hi, Not pregnant yet but a big time planner. When do you think would be the optimal time to tell my manager about a pregnancy? I’m currently way behind on my targets and my company is undergoing a restructuring. I’m of two minds about it. On one hand, a known pregnancy might “protect” me from being let go but on the other hand, telling them sooner could give them more time to figure out how to let me go ahead of mat leave. Love to get some thoughts on this! Thanks

Kids school sent a note saying to keep your kid home if they have or are [insert every illness symptom possible]. Coughing is on the list… of course all my kids have a cough. Would you still send them? No other issues…

A child that kicked ,punched and spit at staff and students.He wanted was to go to the principals office. In the principals office he played with Legos, cars and toys. Rewards for bad behavior.

I told my husband that I wished I was more in shape before getting pregnant and his response was “well you could still get fit” 🙃🙃

Anyone have/is a sugar baby or sugar daddy/mommy??

What is the Parental Leave policy at other consulting companies? How does commission structure change during the time off as a producer? If one of your clients buys an engagement, do you not get credit/commission?

Pregnant FTM here, 15 weeks: currently in a 1br small NYC apt, husband wants us to relocate to LA to his parents place and have a nice amount of space, beat winter weather, get help in first couple of months from his mom, and save on rent (put stuff in storage in NY for about a year).

Concerns:
1) having to find a new obgyn/hospital for delivery in LA (starting end of 2nd trimester)
2) not being in our ownspace to heal mentally/physically postbirth (weighing that against additional support too)

What is the homelessness situation like in Nashville? Currently live in Seattle and things are out of control here. Everything's too expensive, and the city doesn't have enough shelters for everyone. It's a mess. Hoping to move somewhere calmer where the city gives a f*ck about it's people. Mother in law lives in Nashville and she'd love to be closer to the grandkids, but rampant homelessness is a deal breaker for me.

How do women really work in pregnancy? I am 7 weeks and so exhausted to work that I feel like taking a long break instead I’m getting overburdened with work. It’s not too much but a bit much for my pregnant brain to take. Also I’m high risk and will have more than the regular amount of appointments and blood work apps in coming future. I have no plans of telling my project peeps until 20 weeks. I don’t know how I’m going to do it.

Tax question! Now that the religious right has deemed the right to choose no longer a right and an group of cells a child, can we at least claim a tax exemption for unborn children?

Hi moms. I am pregnant 17 weeks along and feel like having half a can of coke every day. Seems like it’s under the caffeine limit but just wanted to know your opinions. Did anyone have cravings for coke or fizzy drinks?

NOT A CONFESSION! SEEKING ADVICE HERE

I know therapy is useful. How do we get most out of our therapy sessions?
How do we track or monitor the progress with therapy?
(FYI - I have always been a nerdy kid pressurized by parents. I am finding it a little difficult to maintain and handle friendships. I have realized that dealing with emotions is important. My manager from previous company was toxic. I had a recent break up. My grandfather died last month. Recent events have taken a toll on me)

New parents: how are you managing setting expectations around your schedule and availability? I have a pretty understanding team, but am starting to resent all the extra hours that are often required. Tbh, it was getting a little old even before the baby. Are we all just sucking it up?

For the LGBTQ+ lawyers, if your firm offers reproductive assistance, how did you start the process of planning to start a family? Are there better years as an associate to target having a child? How do you (or should you) approach it with your partner leadership, or should you just dive right in with the HR contacts? Any advice would be really appreciated!

(UK based)

Anyone else stuck in a job because they don't want to lose maternity benefits?

I'm actively looking to have children. Medical advice tells me not to put it off at all, it's now or potentially never.

I have been approached about new jobs, have found jobs that are perfect but they don't offer anything above the statutory mat payments unless you have been there for a year or two at least. As the main breadwinner stat payments would be devastating for us.

Anyone else stuck?

Any book recommendations for parenting an extremely stubborn child? My 4.5 yo middle is giving us such a hard time lately. It varies what sets him off, but one example is: I ask him and big sis to get pajamas on before movie night. Often they come out ready 2 min later but sometimes randomly he’ll say he can’t do it, demand my help, and (when I gently insist he needs to try first) will get so upset that it essentially ruins his evening. he’s otherwise kind, thoughtful, smart, and loving.

Hi Moms, just had baby #2 and we want to upgrade our family car from Toyota Rav4 to a 3-row luxury SUV that's nice looking inside and outside, reliable and has decent cargo space too. My husband doesn't like the exterior of Grand Wagoner. We are considering the Grand Cherokee, Cadillac Escalade or Lincoln Navigator. But I have read terrible reviews about Escalade. Folks seem to like GMC Yukon Denali but I'm worried it'll be too big for me to drive. Appreciate recommendations / thoughts. Thanks!

Started a new job when I was 3 months pregnant. My probation period will end when I am six months pregnant (September). I am beginning to show and am not sure if I should tell my boss prior to or after my probation period. She’s a female with older children, and I’ve had nothing but positive feedback - but you never know. Thoughts?

Any women in IBD who have gotten pregnant as a senior associate/early VP? Tips on who and when to share with different folks (HR, deal teams, ppl in group in general)?

Have to plan for childcare for when I have to return to work after my first child (we get 12 weeks). Did you hire a live in, someone come to house daily or did you bring to a daycare? How much did you pay and where do you live? Am trying to figure out how much good child care will run me.

Anyone know of over the counter for anxiety to take edge off during presentation

Is there a real difference between a $150 and $1,500 office chair? Want to prevent myself herniating my discs but also get something sustainable and built to last.

Real talk: why do we spoil summer associates the way we do? Literally no other industry comes close

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Starcom VP and SVP of Media or Social in New York salaries?

I’m looking to jump ship and is expected to pay back 100% of the legal fees for my green card application. How much is it typically? My case is super straight forward, PERM, EB-3 at a Big 4 from Accounting major

Hi! Are there any companies out there hiring for any Marketing positions? I’m transitioning to the field after being in TV News for 4 years. I have a lot of transferable skills & I am looking to get a new start!

I’m part of NYPD but work hours are too long and the city is so huge that there’s always something going on. I’d rather have a more laid-back role. Are there any police forces in another state that could better fit this description?

Hello all, I need a help from your side, I would be delighted if you guys can take out some time answer my query:
After having the ctc discussion with Cognizant, how many days does it take for the offer letter to be dispatched?

I have 8 years of web testing experience ( selenium, Cypress) . I have joined recently after 3 years gap due to medical reasons. Kindly suggest what tools and technologies should I start working according to latest market .

Best drinks with reposado, jack daniels, and grey goose? Mom just bought some some alc and margarita mix w some syrups to go with my new apartment. I have a nice blender for frozen drinks. Also anyone know how much reposado 750ml costs? Online is saying like $50-60 so prob not gonna be sharing that w people gotta savor it for myself or maybe w a date. I know jack daniels and grey goose (both 750ml) are like standard $28-30

What are 6 figure salaries in commercial insurance?

My husband makes considerably more than me. I realize this is a good problem to have but with us both working from home with a toddler, I feel like we have 2 options (cont)

My teenage son is a freshman in high school. He's constantly stressed and anxious even though he's performing extremely well in classes. He's constantly saying he hates everything and is always tired. I've been trying to get him to sleep by 1130 latest and had him download a mindfulness app but he doesn't seem to stick to anything and continues with the negativity. Any tips on how to push through? I'm considering having him set up time with his school counselor but I'm not sure what else to do

Has anyone here ever gotten a liquid facelift? I’ve never gotten anything before so I’m curious whether this is too aggressive to start with. If you got one, what did it cost? How much upkeep?

Is 38 too late to start looking good? It just occurred to me this week that I can finally buy stuff for myself without feeling guilty or waiting for boxing day or a big sale. I have gray hair, dark circles and bulging belly and I am finally at a place where I can do something for me...but I feel like I've lost my prime "pretty years" and is 38 looking like 68.

I did step 1 of a medical abortion just hours after.Roe v. Wade was overturned. I feel fortunate to live in a state that protects these rights, and while I've always been pro-chouce, I am heartbroken about my own 'choice.'

The decision was extremely hard but based on expected quality of life for my existing family given our current financial/work circumstances, and stress/burnout levels from already raising 2 little kids. Altho I think it was the right choice, I feel terribly sad and guilty.

Any post-natal vitamins to recommend?

Help? My MIL wants to be primary caregiver for our toddler and my husband is on board since she’s family, flexible, and has childcare experience. I’m extremely against it since she knows no boundaries and is not safe or interactive imo. I’ve tried giving him examples and he doesn’t think it’s a big deal so difference of opinion and perspective. How can I convince him?

Written offer likely coming in today. I'm 18 weeks pregnant (interview process took a very long time).

I haven't disclosed that I am pregnant yet. If you've changed jobs while pregnant, how did you navigate?
- Email/call to HR?
- Email/call to hiring manager?

I need to confirm that I'd be eligible for paid maternity leave and confirm the length. Anything else I would need to do to cover my bases?

Sorry to bother, trying my best here, a little desperate to learn how to write a catchy, cv on my new upwork profile, if someone have experience on that 🙏pls send me a DM

For those of you with kids in daycare, does it make more sense to have the daycare close to home or close to work? Why?

How do you guys keep your house clean with toddlers and have time to work full time, work out, cook, play with toddlers, take them to activities, etc? I've never been a super tidy person but I really do enjoy a clean home and try but I have the hardest time keeping up. I did at one time have a housekeeper which helped but we can't afford it at the moment. Just doesn't feel like there's enough hours in the day to get it all done.

Moms of fishbowl - what is the best bottle warmer and sterilizer? I’m due in February, planning to do a combination of breast milk and formula (to ensure baby gets all his nutrients one way or another). We bought the baby brezza advanced with WiFi for formula, so more focused on a warmer + sterilizer combo thatll work for breast milk (and specifically thawing breast milk too). Seems there aren’t as many options for combo products with sanitizer, so maybe I’m asking for too much. Suggestions?

So I’m looking into new roles after a layoff and have two kids 8 and 4. I am open and highly considering relocation, but it will be my first time doing so with kids in tow. Anyone have advice or tips on things to keep in mind?

I live in Florida and while I need a job asap - don’t want to pull them out of school mid school year if I can help it and know there’s probably a hundred things I need to consider I might not be aware of.

What is a good 1st birthday gift for your own child? Leave me ideas below. For context, I already have a 529 account for her and another general savings account and plan to contribute to each of those at the end of the year. I know she’s probably still too young to care but still want to get her something nice and memorable

Any SNOO moms out there having issues keeping their babe’s arms tucked down and velcroed in the swaddle? (Cont.)