Hi- where I currently work is very toxic and I was recently offered a new job at an entirely different place (big change!). Seems like an easy move? Well not really- one of my closest colleagues is my direct coworker and struggles with a piece of the job that is key to the role. With me leaving, I would be abandoning them. I’m very conflicted because I very much want this new job, but I’m feeling extremely guilty for leaving a dear friend to fend for their self. Any advice on what to do?

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I understand how you feel but you have to do what is best for you. You cannot worry about your friend because at the end of the day you have to put yourself first. Is there anyway you can teach your coworker what she needs to know so that she can do it when you are gone?

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Agree to the above! Have to put yourself first!

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Do your best to teach her. Don't let guilt hold you back from a better job.

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If this is a great opportunity for you, please take it before it slips through your fingers! You have to help yourself out of that situation before you can help your friend either way.

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I agree! I understand wanting to stay but sometimes you do have to put yourself first. And perhaps you leaving will give her the encouragement to leave too. Sometimes you just need something to break you out of your comfort zone in that regard

Tell her to go work with you at the new job too!

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you do you.

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It's very understandable but put yourself first and once you settle try and pull her along if you feel you can grow your together @ your new job nothing good comes easy and @ times you have to do what is difficult before things becomes easy. Good luck.

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I have been in this situation before. The burnout is real and if you have an opportunity doing something that would bring you joy, you would be doing yourself a huge disservice by not taking it. If she is a ride or die friend, she’ll understand and throw you a party.

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Do what's best for you! She'll leave eventually!

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Hi I have been through the same thing and I suggest doing what is best for you ! Your bestie will support you if she’s your bestie

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Have you talked to them about it? Or asked if maybe they have thought about a long- term plan that allows each of you career growth? Maybe they want to move on to something else too.

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