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Hi y’all, I need some advice. I went on a vacation recently with my boyfriend’s family and feel uncomfortable around his younger sister. She’s a few years older then me and I caught her just blatantly staring at me a couple times. She doesn’t acknowledge my existence in a group setting like she’ll look at everyone else except me. She didn’t try to talk to me at all until she had to. I would mainly try to start conversation and even then she didn’t continue it. She lives a couple hours away so I

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I feel like there are some missing details here…she could just be an awkward person or have RBF tbh. Or she is someone who takes a while to warm up to others. I think it’s a little premature to break up over something like this and trust me, a lot of people don’t get along with their in laws, so something like this is just not a reason unless there’s something else going on here

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She kind of just sounds like a judgmental b*tch with a side of RBF. Is your bf close with her or just so so since they live away from each other? If they’re pretty close then this could create issues down the line. Otherwise I wouldn’t sweat it too much. If y’all get more serious and she’s still like that down the line, maybe have a chat with her to ask her but you may not like the answer bc b*techies are just b*tches sometimes (no matter their age)

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Wonder if she’s gay … hmmm

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Definitely not worth breaking up over. Unpopular opinion - maybe the sister just doesn’t like you, and that’s ok - you all don’t need to be friends. As long as you all treat each other with respect the few times you see each other, that’s enough. We aren’t going to bond with everyone in our lives, that’s just not realistic. I’m not sure what you would expect your bf to do about it. He probably isn’t acknowledging what you’re saying because he thinks it would hurt your feelings to straight up tell you she doesn’t like you. He can’t make her like you, and she isn’t being rude to you. If he doesn’t see his sister giving you looks, he may just think you’re feeling insecure about it versus his sister playing psychological games. He’s in an awkward position, so maybe try to address it with the sister one-on-one instead of bringing your bf into it.

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It sounds frustrating and discouraging, but it also sounds like you have made enough of an effort, and it’s not something you have to fix. Try to let it go and accept you may not be close with her. I don’t have much of a relationship with my in-laws and it used to bug me, but I realized it’s okay. I married their child, not them.

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This wouldn’t be a relationship deal breaker for me especially since she lives out of town. Just find humor in his awkward sister.

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My bf’s sister once called me a rude name within earshot and it definitely did not feel good! Decided right then that she’d never be my bridesmaid (not even engaged yet, lol). But now a year and a half later and we’re friends. I’ve learned how she operates and that she’s immature sometimes. Reminding myself that I don’t have to love her, just tolerate her, really helped. Best of luck!

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I hope our relationship turns out like this. Thank you for sharing your experience!!

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My SIL is a wench and we live 15 minutes away. She likes very few people and most dislike her. 🤷‍♀️

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Lol have toxic MIL and SIL which doesn’t help me do I try to stay away from them. It worked for a few years but when they realized they come head on. So just trying to ignore them and give them back when my husband is not around. I know it can be taxing with work (maybe kids in the future) but eventually you will find a way to navigate it if you feel the guy is right for you and will stand up for you.

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Does she have “normal” conversations with your bf? Like about work, life, etc? If so, maybe try to sit in on those convos. So the two of them are talking about house projects or movies or whatever, and you’ll naturally become part of the conversation. Might help her get to know you and be more comfortable with each other, in a more natural way.

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don’t see her often but every interaction has left me with a bad impression. How do you navigate this? I’ve expressed it to my boyfriend that I’m uncomfortable and she does these things and he doesn’t validate my feelings or acknowledges how this can come off as. I feel insecure and don’t know if this is something worth breaking up over. I always thought you should get along with your partner’s family, if not be respectful towards each other but I’m usually left feeling uncomfortable.

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