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Honest question, why is this bowl so full of personal questions around dating? I mean I understand that some people need an outlet for that but I almost wish there were two sub-bowls here - one for professional stuff and another for relationships. Maybe it’s unfair but I come here for professional advice and it’s weird to sift through all this very personal (and sometimes TMI stuff)

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OP, I encourage you to create that specific bowl for women you’re looking for. At present, this bowl is serving as a community for women who clearly want to discuss their lives outside of and in addition to work; and benefit from the diverse perspectives and interests represented here.

If you don’t have the energy to start that bowl, then I encourage you to post here- the career related questions you have and enjoy all the great responses you’ll get. I’ve witnessed this community rally to provide answers and support on almost any topic.

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I like the name BCH2!

I'm pretty career oriented, but even at my peak anxious recruiting and job switching, I don't think that's all that defines me.

I see what you're saying OP, but I think the women who post non-career things, while they don't mention it, it is implied they seek the advice of more like-minded women.

As someone who only has female friends who either don't work or don't care about their career at all, I enjoy reading other women's posts about their personal lives. It's very rare but this bowl seems to be the only place I see alignment in concerns and views to be honest.

Even though most of us here are from all over and of varying ages, I am able to resonate very well here, including when I disagree with some views!

From mental health, to dating, to budgeting, I think as a whole, we have underlying specifics that apply to us which we don't even necessarily realize :)

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Here we go again...🥱🥱🥱

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I personally like the hodgepodge - I feel like if I were to go to the relationships or other similar bowls, it’s not all a female perspective (which can be good in it’s own right, just not exactly what I’m always looking for).

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This is the healthiest bowl on this app. I really appreciate the variety.

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Ok well question back - why not go for the more work oriented bowls rather than an umbrella bowl like women in consulting? I'm not a mother but I expect being a working mother to come up in such a bowl. Ditto for relationship management, divorce etc, from women's perspectives, while also grappling with career.

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This bowl is by far the healthiest bowl for relationships, divorce, beauty, sexism, etc.

I can’t think of another more inclusive healthy bowl, and regulating like this ruins this bowl.

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I tend to agree. I have been here from the very beginning and find myself engage less and less because the bowl is being overwhelmed not just with non-career posts, but posts solely focused on dating, many of which are very immature.

I am ok with the first category because it’s life and it is challenging to separate and many times our careers have impact on our personal decisions and vice versa. But posts like, “will he text me or should I text him”, “I am 24; is my life over because I’m not dating?”, etc. are distracting. I am not trying to dismiss them or belittle them, but as the bowl is growing, it is becoming more difficult to comb through and find the posts I am here to provide perspective on.

I think the bowl is at risk for losing its identity because it is growing and getting larger. I don’t know what powers admins have, but I think some guidelines would be helpful and some posts really are better suited for other bowls.

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P1- while I enjoy commenting on career posts, I also like the variety of posts, even the dating ones. It’s helpful to be reminded that our teams are full of diverse folks at work - and that the women in their early 20s and 30s are thinking about all of the stuff that gets posted in this bowl + all the stress of career. So I get to learn about what matters to ppl + chime in on career / life posts when I have something useful to add

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This bowl has all sorts of stuff and I love it! I don’t think having personal posts takes away from the professional type ones at all. I think the mix of topics on here are helpful for a lot of people, including myself, and It’s super easy to just keep scrolling if something doesn’t interest you. :)

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I’ve read a lot of career related posts on here too! Especially around taking pay cuts to pursue a different opportunity, opinion on a different firm, dealing with SM/Pmds etc. I guess our demographic is lower in counts hence it all comes down to a single bowl.

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I’m not saying it’s all personal relationship stuff! Lol I come here for those career related posts specifically

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I enjoy the mix. Always nice to see feedback and commentary from successful and like-minded women on personal issues as well

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I’ve noticed that career related questions do receive less attention, but be the change you want to see. Start giving advice, asking questions, etc.

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THIS. So many times people ask career related questions and get like 3-5 replies, while the relationship ones have like 20-30, sometimes even 70!

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Oh boy, the search function would’ve saved you so much time here.

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OP - I kind of felt the same way when I first joined the bowl. But as I’ve seen the support and camaraderie’s everyone shares here, it’s really such a supportive and safe environment for all types of questions in an otherwise lonely world! I’ve posted here for primarily professional questions and always gotten the BEST advice. I’ve also learned from other woman posting more personal things, things maybe I’m too scared to ask. So I love the duality of the bowl!

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You can search for posts related to things you’re interested in. But I will say, I’ve asked relationship questions on here and received some amazing advice and support, which actually made an impact in my life. The relationship bowl is less populous and both men and women are a part of it - sometimes I just want a female perspective.

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Because women are more than just their careers and we want to discuss an array of topics

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There is a female bosses bowl that is strictly career/professional growth topics

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I think “girl boss” is officially cheugy now lol. I liked the term a few years ago but it’s kind of cringe now.

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I’ll continue to copy and paste my response to the same amount of questions asking why posts are about relationships as the ones actually about them.

BECAUSE WOMEN TEND TO BEAR MORE EMOTIONAL BURDENS IN RELATIONSHIPS AND ITS NATURAL FOR US TO SEEK SOLACE IN OTHER WOMEN.

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It has nothing to do with having to bear more of an emotional burden than a partner in the relationship

Why don’t those of you who are looking for more career-focused posts take the initiative to start those conversations?

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Because they just wanna complain and pretend they’re above other women.

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I know people feel “disappointed” or whatever. I’ve made all sorts of posts and all this ardent passion for professional posts is not there when I’ve made career related posts. This also applies to the Female Bosses post. So, contribute to the posts you want to see.

Btw- this bowl supported me and gave me valuable resources to leave a toxic narcissistic live in partner. Because it isn’t your battle, doesn’t mean that people are not going through things.

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This question keeps popping up, create a bowl that meets your needs. If enough people agree, they’ll join.

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I also want to point out that there is a bowl limit on here and personally there is so much great information on this app that I have reached capacity. If you want a certain topic discussed here, start a post! There’s also the search function if you want to see if something’s been discussed already.

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Do companies match an offer or give some premium above any competing offer ?
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Drop it below! 👇

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