Honestly... I feel like an ungrateful daughter for saying this but I cannot wait to leave my parent’s house. I’ve been WFH here since my job started in September, and I’ve loved being able to make up for lost time with them. But although they say they’re happy I’m home and want me to stay longer, I feel like I’ve wayy overstayed my welcome because everyone is irritable all the time and we now bring out the worst in each other. I’m constantly anxious about accidentally pissing someone off. Cont’d

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If you have a job and the financial means, move out ASAP. Adults children don’t belong at home living with their parents, you need your own space and privacy, and so do they. It was a pandemic so it’s understandable why you were there, but if you feel it’s time to leave, go!

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Gonna try and leave by May LOL.... June is too damn far

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The first five months were fine, and now it’s gotten unbearable. I move out in June. I just get so worked up and annoyed all the time and I hate feeling this way. What are some tips to not make the last two months at home feel shitty for everyone?

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Sounds exactly like what my parents would say if I were home with them. I love them dearly, but I feel like our relationship got so much stronger after I moved out. When I go home now for longer than a few days I just start getting snippy and irritable with my mom for no reason! They will understand, you’re an adult and of course they love to have you around but will also understand your want/need for independence.

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Yes. Yes, they would.

My spouse and I are the parents of a college-age adult, who was home with us for the first 10 months of the pandemic. We’ve always been close, but 3 people working & living full time in the same space was a lot, even though we all had our own rooms to work in. They moved out in January, and I think we’re all happier with a little more space.

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Am literally having the same feels and plan to move out also. I feel ya girl!

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I have the same issue but i maintained an apt in a hcol city about an hour away during the pandemic. I only went 4-5 times during the pandemic because my fam is elderly and I they are so dependent on me. I was depressed and for one year just going with it to make others happy. Now my lease is up and fam thinks I should just move in full times with them. Nope, no thanks. I will burn through money but need my own place. It’s important for mental health.

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I’ve kept my place too even though I’ve barely been there this year. You’re not alone!

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Thank you for sharing this! I am in a similar situation. Staying with parents WFH, starting to feel suffocated from their opinions on what I should do with my career, and generally not living 100% as myself. I feel guilty for wanting to leave because I should be grateful for the time we have gotten to spend together. My new job is closer to them which complicates matters culturally and financially - hoping to stay remote so that I can keep my place in another city (LCOL) 2 hours away.

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Yes! Your mental health comes first! Your parents will understand and possibly also realize they are happier with a little bit of distance

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Saaaaaaaaame
After a year at home, I feel I’ve literally lost all my independent bearings and become a dependent again. Need to get out for my own sanity.

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Same sister

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