Hooked up with a guy after talking for a looooong time and he pulls this “oh I was really drunk I don’t remember that hook up/conversation” move regularly, but later references something so I know he does remember. Is he embarrassed to be getting with me??

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Did you enjoy and did you have a good time? That’s all it matters for now.

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It sounds like you’re putting more energy and effort into this hookup than he is. If you’re looking for someone to remember all of your conversations and interactions, you’re looking in the wrong place

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Tough to gauge with so little context. But he remembers. What I'm getting is that he's not proud with himself (could be many reasons... e.g. his performance, his behavior) or he has no interests in continuing things with you.

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I feel like expectations with hook ups should be pretty low (like both of you respect your each other wishes/consent of course), but other than that, I wouldn’t expect a hook up to be super engaged or put a lot of effort into remembering different things.

But if you’re not getting what you’re looking for, I would end it

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For God's sake please don't spend one more second of your energy on this person.

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He’s reminding you what a hookup is. Which is… You don’t talk about it. Talking about it is a sign of getting attached.

He references something vaguely because he would love to do it again, but just not talk about it. If that’s what you want go out and get a few drinks again.
If not, this is not for you. Go cold Turkey with him on this topic.

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Not really. He might not remember at that time, but l you might remind him about it. Then, he started to flashback about the moment with you. That’s it.

Know your worth. That energy means you should
Immediately distance yourself.

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