Hot take - Body shaming is bad but all body types are not healthy. Body positivity for all body types is glorifying obesity.

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Also, just because I say I prefer dating thinner women, does not mean I’m fat-phobic, body-shaming or calling obese women ugly. I’m allowed to have my preferences. No one gets to dictate what I like.

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Why do people think that they deserve anything? Since when did the universe become fair and equitable to all life?

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I think there is a limit on how much we should be able to comment on other people’s bodies - really, we shouldn’t be commenting at all.

While not all bodies are healthy, my perspective on body positivity is about accepting where you are now in this moment and also knowing that your body may not look the same in a few weeks, months, years, from now. This is because life happens and sometimes we can’t control it.

Obesity may be a part of it but I don’t agree that body positivity “glorifies” obesity.

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SA1, HAES can’t control how people mischaracterize or misinterpret them. But it’s a clinical model with good evidence behind it.

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Body shaming is bad. Providing constructive criticism to improve one health is good. Not body shaming doesn’t also mean approving obesity.

Example 1: “Look at her. She’s so fat I’m sure no one wants her” - this is bad. If you don’t have anything good to say, move on.

Example 2: a good friend telling “I love you for the way you are but I am also worry about your health. I want to make sure we are still friend when we are old. Have you think about exercising more and watching out for diet?” - this is fine and it’s not shaming.

Example 3 - a group of friend saying “she’s just not my type” - this is neutral. You are entitled to your type.

Example 4 - a group of friends saying “look at all her fat around the waist. That’s so ugly hahahah. No way I’m f***ing her.” - that’s shaming.

Just my 2c.

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Nobody made that connection but you pretending not to understand what was said to you. 🙄 Good talk, tho.

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Lukewarm take at best, do better

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While we’re at it, lets be honest, not all bodies are beautiful.

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Speak for yourself buddy.... I feel like a million Venezuelan Bolivares 😁

Agreeeeee, I have a neighbor that is obese who womansplained to me about the benefits of antioxidants from blueberries for 10 min during carpool (she took up her whole seat and space in between drivers and passengers). Meanwhile she is 49% body fat and is a family physician who does not practice anymore. Lives in mansion yet barely leaves her upstairs, it’s sad

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Why should I care about other people’s bodies?

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But they are different. People don’t get bullied for being thin and not exercising. But overweight people feel attacked all the time, regardless of their exercise routine.

This isn't a hot take.

Body shaming is bad, and your weight or shape doesn't dictate your value as a human being. However, it's well known that those that are obese will experience more cardiovascular/chronic health issues.

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Body shaming is bad but some ppl deserve to be bullied
-McK

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Why is body shaming bad if it works? More people should be shamed imho

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You can encourage family to engage in healthy behaviors (if they don’t), without shaming their bodies though. They can love themselves for who they are AND take care of themselves, as we’re all entitled to do.

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By some of the body shaming I see in this bowl and app in general, this guy would be called fat and ugly. Meanwhile, he can probably lift more than anyone here.

Not every male who’s 5’10” should be 160 lbs. Not all body types are created equal.

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Why did you share my photo AD 1 without crediting me. Not cool bro…

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It might be that I'm just high, but you def could of structured your point in a way that's clearer and easier to read. Again might be that I'm just high.

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I don’t let fat people work for me - it just shows me you have no self-discipline. Sorry, not sorry

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This isn’t the flex you thought it’d be. 😬

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I think no one should be shamed or feel shame about weight because that does not help weight loss and can be countreactive. But body positivity does not mean you should “treat yourself once a week” if you are very overweight which is unhealthy

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I’m talking about people who are very overweight who take advantage of cheat days and the concept of cheat days. They use that figure of speech clearly more than once a week

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Hot take is probably more along the lines of “we need to accelerate body shaming because obese bodies are unhealthy”

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Why exactly did you feel the need to post this? Is the notion that someone who is overweight has just a moment of self esteem too much for you to handle?

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Are you a doctor? Medical or some form of mental health specialist? Have you ever been fat? Do you regularly shame the fat people in your life, such as family and friends? People you deem fat/obese can’t be happy with themselves? Do you feel the same way about people who are thin and appear “unhealthy” to you?

Most people who are deemed fat by society are making a conscious effort to love themselves even when you and society tell them they shouldn’t. Why is that an issue? The ones who are genuinely happy and healthy with their size aren’t hurting you, so why the issue?

The only real instance that fat people impact you is seating on some public form of transportation. This could also be uncomfortable if you put a big weight lifter in the seat. Another is insurance premiums. But there are a plethora of medical issues that increase premiums and most insurance companies have so many subscribers that you probably wouldn’t notice much difference in cost at this point.

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FMA it effects me when I have to bury someone I love decades before I should have had to

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PREACH 🔥

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They shouldn’t be shamed, they should be encouraged. Imagine if gyms gave discounts if you’re overweight

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SD1 you've clearly never been to a gym when someone is overweight there most people give them encouragement or ignore them because they are busy with their own workout. Rarely there may be some a-holes but there are a-holes everywhere who will make fun of you for any and every thing

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Wait hold up what about the super skinny people?
That’s not health either is it?

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No one was trying to take away from the issue. It was simply an acknowledgment that body shaming goes both ways. It’s a lesser extent with skinny people, but it still exists.
As I said before, you’re arguing a separate issue. I’m speaking on the rudeness of giving others -skinny and obese- unsolicited opinions.

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