How are you guys staying sane? I'm close to losing it. Have managed to be okay (with ups and downs) for the past 1 year. But, it's getting a little tough to handle now.
I don't want to get on a flight every week, but this life.... This is something else

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Staying sane? I'm just staying alive and staying employed. It's no way to live. It will end. But it doesn't feel like it!

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At this point, I don't even know what am I even waiting for?
To travel every week - nah. I'm not. I'm not saying my life will not be normal until that.
Waiting fo be vaccinated - maybe? But then again there's all these new variants and who knows what new variant will show up which might not work with the vaccine....
So, what am I waiting for? Not sure what should/must happen for us to feel not like this

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I lost my grandma in June.
I lost my dad in October.
I don’t really know if I’m staying sane but I’m trying to have routines. Read, meditate, exercise, journal. I listened to this podcast episode and try to follow the steps to avoid burnout and manage stress.
1. Laugh
2. Cry
3. Create something
4. Have physical touch - a hug or resting my hand on my family’s shoulder
5. Move your body
6. Breathe deeply
7. Have positive social interactions

Brene brown - unlocking us - episode with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on burnout

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I'm SO sorry, EY2. Sending strength to you. I'm so impressed by reading everything you are doing to maintain some balance.
Need to learn from you.
I hope your dad's and grandma's soul rest in peace 🙏

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Life is hell. And I know that compared to so many people I'm so fortunate. But this life is still not the life anybody was meant for

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Really suggest you try to change your mindset about this OP! You are only focusing on the activities/events you can’t do anymore, which is depressing. Instead, think of the activities you now have the ability to do because you are at home more in your city. Suggestions:
1. Since you aren’t flying each week, maybe this is a time to order takeout from local restaurants and find some new favorites
2. You have time after work now, so maybe you pick up a new hobby you love and emerge yourself in it
3. Make it a point to pick up the phone and call/video chat friends and family for a social interaction (literally feels like the exact same thing as meeting up at a bar)

If you focus on the good, you are going to thrive during this pandemic

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My perspective is that I had a great life in 2019 with an exciting job and lots of fun things to do on the weekends, and then that got turned into just sit in a chair looking at a screen from 9-22 and stumble to bed

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I’ve been dumping money into my art hobbies lol

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What art hobbies have you picked up?

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Who says we’re sane? Nobody is ok right now lol

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😷🤗

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One word... alcohol

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I've stopped drinking since March last year. My last drink was the one in the centurion lounge on a Thursday before my flight.
I feel good about it. Less calories that can be enjoyed with chocolate chip cookies or sitting on my ass doin nothing

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Meh...I wouldn’t go that far. Me:
1) I’ve gained 15 pounds since Halloween (I was thin)
2) I have trouble keeping my focus on tv shows now, but can watch the news forever
3) My knees have begun to bother me. For pretty much the whole pandemic. And it FINALLY occurred to me this week: it’s because I’m VERY sedentary now
4) I shop online constantly. The FIRE bowl is actually giving me anxiety because I’m just dumping my money into crap. I’m so excited for it to arrive, and when it does, I lose it. Another purchase to make!
5) There’s others, but this is enough public confession

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My knees too!! Knees and ankles and I'm in my 30s. Like what the heck

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You’re so close. Don’t give up. I know it has been a long time.. it can feel like forever. But it’s a matter of months now. Almost at the finish line.

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Trust me, I wish I was wrong.

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It's the war or crisis or something of our times. I never thought that my generation would get to experience such a jarring and historic event. I recognize the extraordinariness of our times and try to be brave and fight to stay sane and safe.

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I agree that equating this pandemic to WWII would not be appropriate. But this is going to be something that stands as a marker on history for all of us for many years to come. In 2030, people will talk about where they were and what they did during the pandemic. Most people will have stories about people they knew who nearly died. Most people will have know someone who was sick. In 2040, it'll still be something people refer back to.

A lot of really privileged people might be having meltdowns but a lot of reasonable people are also going through difficult things

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You’re not alone, OP! It’s caught up to me recently and I can’t decide if it’s burnout or something else. I’ve met with my PCP and she encouraged me to ask for help. Some of my symptoms are scary (insomnia, eye twitching, lack of focus & energy, etc.). I’m on my 4th match for a therapist at Betterhelp, but she’s a great fit! Have things changed overnight? No. But do I feel less alone, feel validated in my feelings and have a professional helping me work through this? Yes, thankfully. I hate asking for help, but if 2020 has taught us anything, we need to value our health. Most of our normal coping mechanisms are gone and work life balance isn’t great for most of us. Set boundaries and find way to take care of YOU. Find something that brings you a little joy: reality tv, journaling, meditating, fantasy books, adult coloring books, exercise, redecorate, etc. This feels endless, but find activities and people, even over the phone or Zoom, who can help keep you sane.

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SF1 - my roller's place is in the freezer. Lol. I've gotten SO used to that that now it feels useless without it being frozen! Haha...

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Exercise, meditation, enough sleep and healthy food. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I try to focus on those 4 things and I find it keeps me busy enough to keep my mind off how sucky life is. Exercise gives a great endorphin boost which genuinely makes me happy and energized for a few hours afterwards. It’s been a long haul, but stay in the fight! I genuinely do think there is light at the end of the tunnel.

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I started walking around the house recently... 4 days of 12k steps and my heels were hurting yesterday. So I prob need to change my shoes.
But, slowly getting there - exercise I mean.
Meditation - yeah,I REALLY need to put some effort to be consistent and just do it.

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I came to FL for the winter, able to spend more time outside in the nice weather, and stay safe.

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Do it. I did the same with 4 teenagers. Best decision during this pandemic . Miami will be good for you.

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It’s fucking hell. I’m fortunate to have a job and a comfortable home. But it’s taken a toll on my mental health, my partner and I have to actively spend time apart in separate rooms just to keep the relationship healthy and have some semblance of normalcy, and I have fallen into the pattern of not knowing how/when to stop working.

But I have picked up a few hobbies during this quarantine! I’ve always been a decent cook so I started recipe developing — and got one published on a food media site. I took up ceramics (when it was warmer out so classes were outdoors and distanced) that I can’t wait to continue doing.

I read up this thread that you have kids, I can’t empathize but I’m sure it’s significantly harder. Maybe take a trip somewhere warm. If you can afford it, somewhere down the coast that has some resident only beach areas - let your kids run around while you sit back, read or relax or something!

Hope you feel better. x

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Thank you for sharing. Yes. Absolutely. I have to shove my kids away (without shoving them away because I'd be terrible if I actually did that). I stand up and my toddler asks "mom where are you going". And I'm like "to pee". He's forgotten I do have to be alone for a few mins at least. Argh

You are not alone OP. We’re barely keeping it together. Everything was fine the start of January and now we are barely functioning. My husband and I both have very demanding careers and neither wants to step back but I’m super upset that I know it will have to be me if either of us do. We have 5 kids from 12 - 18mos and no one is thriving and we’re all at the end of our ropes.

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Sending you strength!

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Thanks for sharing everyone because I’m having a really hard time and it helps to know I’m not alone. I have totally lost motivation—where I am usually working on personal and professional goals and initiatives—doing the minimum at work because I have to and as a distraction. Today after a difficult morning I managed to put on some music I like, did a 30 minute workout, had a shower, and went for a walk outside with family. I feel a bit better after, where I was feeling totally paralyzed I’m now feeling okay/functional.

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Glad to hear you worked through what seemed to be a frustrating/difficult day!

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Hey OP you're not alone. This is hard. Every day there are new challenges.

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I go through ups and downs but the only thing that’s helped is exercise and I got into smoothies and making sure I eat a lot of veggies/better foods.

I called out twice this month because my anxiety is in overdrive. I didn’t miss anything important but still.... and my attention span, OMG. I find myself working til 7 or 8 some nights because I can’t focus and there’s really no excuse other than my lack of motivation.

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Totally second taking time off. It has been hugely helpful to me. It kinda sucks to take vacation and just stay at home, but it does you some good to disengage from work for a longer period of time. 4 day weekend or something!

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I take plenty of walks outside, daily, to get some exercise. Also on my zoom calls I make it a point to get to know my co-workers and their lives, from the junior staff moving into their new apartment to the manager who talks about their plans to travel to Europe after this is all over.

Plus I've been reading a lot of books and staying away from the bad news.

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You sound like a good person 🙌

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