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Well, if you are expecting to be able to say whatever you want, it’s only fair to expect others may respond and clap back. Might I note that the premise of this comment suggests an injured feeling of victimhood. Rather than wallow in your sense that the world is out to criminalize your voice, there are several options:
1) Stop caring that you’re being called out or that someone else is offended. It’s their right to say what they want back to you if they don’t like what you said.
2) if you do care and find yourself offended that someone else is offended, perhaps listen to the reasons and seek to understand, vs the immediate response (“I didn’t mean it that way” “PC culture sux” being two common ones). Then, at best you understand the reasons why your comments could be seen as hurtful. At worst you can probably pattern match enough to avoid conflict.
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Congrats on your marriage.
Chief
So true
What if you didn’t focus so much on not offending others and just be authentic and when someone says you offended them, correct it. Offer an apology. Offer to listen.
We can’t always do this thing perfectly but how we react when we’re called to the carpet for our actions makes a world of difference.
Rising Star
Most People don’t like having hard conversations. They like people to agree with them.
We also have let well-intentioned empathy go too far - to a point where we are all trying to dance around subjective oversensitivity
OP I agree with you! So tired of the bullying that goes on from every side! It would be nice if people would have conversations that lead to a better understanding of each other than to completely shut down a conversation by name calling and trying to bully people who may not share their same opinion. If people don’t share my opinions, I would never cut them out of my life! We just agree to disagree and move on! Life is too short to judge people with opinions different than your own as unworthy of your love or compassion.
Chief
Maybe you should be thankful that the people around you care about you enough to challenge you to be a better person.
Pro
Because being offended has been normalized and encouraged.
What do you do that's offensive? Can you provide examples?
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We need examples. I'd guess the vast majority of people here don't have issues with offending people on a regular basis, so this may be a good time to reevaluate what you consider normal that those around you do not. It could be a great opportunity for self improvement
Drink water, stay hydrated and mind the business that pays you and repeat. Lol.
I think there are certain things that are obviously offensive and shouldn’t be joked upon or taken lightly (I.E. regarding people’s rights, minority groups/cultures, sexual assault, etc just to name a few). If topics such as these are spoken about out of line, then by all means offense (and anger, frustration) is totally justified!
But I’ve noticed in so many situations that someone is just “looking for a reason” to be offended. People will (purposely?) misconstrue and twist and take to a total extreme the smallest of comments (the intent of which is typically just neutral).
Sure, maybe you’re the bully if you’re offending people. But have we as a society gotten too..soft and hypersensitive to everything? To the point where I think once, twice, thrice about even opening my mouth sometimes because fear that someone might misconstrue what I say. I think this effectively silences people who otherwise were just trying to have a convo, as they feel like they’re walking on eggshells.
Again. I’m not saying be an asshole. But I do feel like people can just be hypersensitive these days.
Source - mid 20’s minority female (who’s kinda annoyed of all this)