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In general I’d say you should do whatever you want to and are comfortable with, while keeping in mind your firm’s policy and client politics. For these specific ideas, my guess is that most firms allow men to wear studs and allow hair that is died a natural color. So if that’s how you feel most comfortable expressing yourself, go for it!
The other thing be aware of is client politics. If you work in Oil and Gas, many of your clients may raise an eyebrow to a man wearing an earring. I’m not saying that’s a reason not to wear it, but it’s good to be realistic when considering the potential downsides.
More specifically, how do you balance that with how you represent yourself at the client, at work, etc.?
Also interested in this question. Always wanted to dye my hair but am afraid it’s not work appropriate, or even if it is, has a impact on my representation to clients.
Anecdotal, but I have dyed hair (in a strong, non natural color) and it hasn't been an (explicit) issue. Doesn't feel like people take me less seriously either.
In the last 5 years I’ve work in several O&G companies and it’s far more common for company own male employees to wear earrings.
All valid concerns, I would also add that maybe there are other ways to embrace yourself without a noticeable change in appearance that may have negative consequences for you at work. My impression from the post is that you’re experimenting with options to feel more authentic at work, and you want express that by piercing your ears. Not knowing how your clients will respond, I would start small and gradually build up to a full expression. For example, I would start with a human rights sticker on my bottle or notebook, assess responses, and either ramp up or tone down depending on level of acceptance. My philosophy, which may be unpopular, is that work is work. It doesn’t define who I am, so I’m not obligated to show who I am when I’m at work especially if there’s potential negative consequences for me if I did. Obviously it would be great if I could be myself when I’m at work but sometimes you have to pick your battle.
Well, are you transitioning? You can’t change the problem statement after the fact just to challenge the recommendation... Your original post didn’t mention that you were transitioning. If you were transitioning then obviously you can’t be subtle about that and you just have to be unapologetically yourself even if it meant putting yourself at risk for negative consequences as many trans folks already do, bc they have no other choice. You, however, as a cis gender gay male, can pass as straight and have a choice as to how feminine you want to be. So don’t even think for a second that your experience is anything like a trans person, and try to equate the gravity of the two situations, bc they’re simply NOT the same...check your privilege please.
Cis gay guys tend not to catch shit about minor things like piercings and haircuts, you should be fine.
Of course it’s anecdotal, I didn’t do an ethnography 😄
I don't think pierced ears would be a problem in 2019? What geography or industry are you worried about?