How did you decide at what age you wanted kids? I thought I wanted them at 28, but I’ll be 28 in about a year and don’t feel I’ve lived enough yet to have kids... but I also don’t want to wait until say, 35, either.

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I wanted kids at 24. I’m 27 and laugh at myself because idk what the hell I was thinking back then lol. I’m not too sure at this point when I’ll be blessed with kids but I’m hoping it comes when I’m financially and mentally strong for it.

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YEP I feel that, kids are expensive and mentally taxing. I had a meeting today that made me feel like an absolute junior and it made me think I don’t know enough about life.

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My SIL will give birth this year 37. Another cousin also giving birth at 37. Two lawyers. Career women are doing things later and later.

I’m turning 33 soon and biologically I don’t want to wait any longer in hopes of having the best possible outcome, but damn I have a really good thing going right now! Finishing up my first year of marriage. I’m having so much fun. We are working on some big projects together. Renovating a home (literally, building it ourselves save a couple important contractors for work like electrical) We are growing us a couple and it’s amazing just us two.

We’re going to start within a year...have already done preliminary preconception screenings for him and myself.

I remember thinking my mom having me at 29 was “sooooo old” since we were in a southern area where people had babies more on the younger side, so my friend’s parents were sometimes 10 years younger!

Now I totally get it. They were married for 10 years before they had me. Conceived in 3 months. I asked why they’d waited so long one day... they just smiled and my mom said “we were having so much fun together... we woke up one day and realized we were getting a little order and had better do the kid thing”😂 I really understand that feeling now.

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28 and know for sure that I don’t want kids!

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Am 48. Never felt any desire at any age for kids. Not worth the cost and the world is in poor condition.

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what does “lived enough” mean?

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Tons of women are having kids at older ages. If you’re concerned about fertility then look into getting your eggs freezes! If not, then just sit back and enjoy the ride!

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It’s not so much fertility as I’d like for my kids to be self sufficient before my body starts aging. I have a cousin who had her kids close to 40 and she seems way more exhausted than a younger mom would be.

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The older you get, the younger it feels. Thought my parents were old b/c they were 32 when I was born. Had mine at 31 and 35 and am dramatically younger than a lot of moms I know. And still wondering when I’ll feel “grown up.” Kids are exhausting no matter how old you are. But you can find balance if you stay mindful of it. These days, I can’t imagine my life without mine!

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Hoping to get pregnant at 28, and have a kid at 29, but that's mostly because the current plan is to have 3 (and the baby fever is really starting to kick in). We're also planning on getting a few really fun trips under our belt before then - but we've also planned out fun trips for after we have kids because we don't plan to stop living.

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31 but it was a delightful surprise - I don’t know when it would have been perfect and the process of doing it on purpose now is so much more stressful haha. As an “older” mom (woof) i make it a point that working out is a part of my self care and that I lift heavier than the kid, want to be as active and healthy with them as long as possible

Decided at 38.

You're too young. Live a little.

Had my first at 27 and pregnant again now. Love being “young” parents! You are never ready and i dont imagine we wouldve ever felt like we were done traveling/enjoying our freedom, so im glad we didnt wait for that.

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