How did you know you were “ready” to have a baby?

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We talked about it for months then went out one weekend, had a great time eating at restaurants, making out on the street, drinking champagne, and enjoying the weather... Then we went home and made a baby without a care in the world (or at least, I didn’t have any!)

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Amazing story! Very uplifting - I had a lot of trouble getting pregnant and by the end felt the romance was being taken out of it

When your bank account tells you to

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When the nurse said “you’re at 10 centimeters, time to start pushing"

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Hmm I just “knew.” When we got married we had planned a trip to go to Italy about six months later. Months before then I started telling my husband that I wanted to go on the trip, drink a ton of wine, and then when we got back it would be go time. It sounded good to both of us, and we had our first nine months later. In a bigger picture sense, also
1. Always knew we wanted kids
2. Knew we wanted at least two maybe three, so need enough time
3. Were financially stable, emotionally ready
4. Had awesome benefits and wanted to be sure to take advantage
5. Knew many people who had struggled, so I always figured I’d rather try early and have time to work it out if there was a problem

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When i found out i was pregnant! I think i wouldve waited a couple years if not for the surprise baby but i am really glad for the timing for a variety of reasons, but especially because id prefer to start young & knock them out. That said, i dont think id have ever felt “ready”. There would always be more travel that I wanted to do or more freedom I wanted to have more more money I wanted to save up....

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When I saw two blue lines :)

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Started imagining what our future kid would be like (what sport would they play, would our dog get along with them), paying attention to parent friends and how they parented, and thinking about whether our apartment would be big enough for a baby and a mother-in-law.

My colleagues would recognize me with this answer. The truth is you feel it, like how you feel about love. I was asking people for the last three years, "what is the value proposition to have a kid". It is a drain on financial and personal freedom. No one gave me a good answer, typically the answers were, unconditional love is great, you change, you need someone in your life, they will take care of you when you get old, couldn't imagine a life just with my husband etc. etc. nothing seemed convincing. My VP said when it is time you will know and won't ask this question, right now you are not ready so don't think too much. And this year, I felt I want one suddenly. Same with my husband, he didn't want to have one, but suddenly seeing all our friends he feels like he wants one. financial security, time in marriage etc. also helped my husband I guess. good luck!

Thanks! 😊

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