How do I change my mindset to be more positive? Feels like I start my days in a decent mood and within an hour or two of working I’m in the worst mood. Every client email seems to annoy me and when I look at my pic on Teams I visually looks crabby all the time and act it to. 🤦🏻‍♂️ I’m only 28, far too young to be like this.

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I went through a phase during this WFH period like this and I started a morning routine. I always take a walk and get coffee in the morning. Makes me feel like I’ve already accomplished something just because I got out of bed, dressed, and got some steps in! I still have bad days though. I would say just try to find something that brings you a little happiness.

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I try to enjoy one cup of coffee without my phone. Easier said than done but it makes a huge difference!!

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I’d recommend reading The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday. It’s provides a one pager on a stoic topic to read each day. I’ve found that stoic philosophy has helped me rethink the way that I see the world - specifically the negative things that happen to me 😊

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Just smile all day. You don't have to mean it, just do it. Eventually it will filter down the rest of your body and change your mood. Also, workout more. Harvest the endorphins to pick up your mood.

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What makes you feel good, optimistic? Are you taking breaks to reset your mood?

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Are there calls you can take while walking outside, or blocks you can build in to have a tea away from your screen? I used to work those hours, it’s hell. I stopped a few years ago, and when I have the occasional stretch like that for a week or two I can see the effects on mood, energy, performance, sleep, stress and body so much more clearly. Inevitably get sick the week after, inevitably takes a week or two for metabolism and sleep to reset. It sounds like you know what the problem is, and it’s not your POV... how could you be positive and optimistic when you’re being crushed?

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Get a punching bag and wail on it between meetings.

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Do you need a new job? It shouldn't be that hard to stay positive throughout the day if you wake up in a good mood. Now if course covid has been rough on everyone, so that is something to consider.

Make the conscious choice to look at the good things in life - check out positive reframing, the more you do it the easier it is. Print yourself a funny picture or meme and tape it where you work so you can easily see it. Between calls listen to music you enjoy. Make yourself an awesome cup of coffee or tea you like. When it's time to end work, let yourself leave work behind. Watch a funny show, work out, or read a book series you enjoy.

I found myself in this limbo recently too. And looking back at other instances, I’ve always wondered why I let it get to me so much. So here’s what I’m trying (working better so far) : I build in breaks, I workout, I do good not great... and anytime I step away from work, I truly switch my brain off (especially weekends). Still start getting annoyed by mid- day or end of day, but I hate being the grouch and as I implement this more, it gets better the next day

This sounds like you're working on mindfulness. There are a lot of great resources online. Person, I love the Calm app. Even just 10-15 minutes of a mediation session helps tremendously. I usually put on calming music to sleep or take a bath, but I started the 7 days of calming anxiety and that's great too.

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