How do I deal with not wanting to sleep until my eyes can't bear anymore? I just waste time on my phone until 2 or 3 AM, sleep and wake up for early morning meetings. Does anyone have the same issue?

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it is absolutely your phone keeping you awake ... lots of science out there now on how it stimulates you. Turn it off an hour before you ideally want to sleep, and do something analog like a book, magazines or journal.... you'll be amazed how sleepy you feel. Good luck!

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OP, we may be soulmates. Exact same set of issues. I fall asleep on Headspace within a few minutes but don’t do it. Rather watch two hours of YouTube and regret it the next day. There’s something odd happening in the mind, I keep avoiding the “I just work and sleep” feeling and pretend this random YouTube behavior is “me time” but rationally it’s stupid. I don’t know how to fix the psychology of it. Falling asleep is not actually the problem.

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Uh oh.

What does hating suspense or scary stories got to do with this?

I think everyone’s missing the point OP is trying to make here.

It’s not that we’re NOT able to fall asleep, it’s that we CHOOSE not to.

I’m in the exact same boat OP, it’s such a self destructive habit that’s wrecking havoc on my body.

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Start listening to sleepy podcasts

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Thanks but I think best way is to not have my phone near me if I want to sleep without distractions

You’re not drinking enough

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I’m the same way! :/ I make jokes about it, but it’s getting ridiculous at this point.

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I used to track how much i slept but found that made me feel anxious, so I removed my fitbit and just don’t think about “I need to sleep”, I did a few pages readings before sleep instead of looking at my phone and I would switch my phone to “dnd” mode. It worked for me, and you may drink a cup of hot milk before sleep, or get a Muji ultrasonic diffuser and put lavender oil in it, it calms you down.

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Hi, I had the same problem until mid of this year. What worked for me is exercising. It could be as simple as jogging/running to all the way up to weight training. I personally run 5miles daily.
Physical exertion will make your body tired enough not to crave late night screen on time and just close your eyes.

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I think you need to figure out why you don’t want to sleep, and then go from there.

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Procrastination is self harm

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I’m not the only one?! Let me know if you’ve found the solution OP!

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Don’t stare at phone from 9 to 5 , your health is more important which is a physical reality versus what’s happening at the virtual world

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Research adrenal fatigue, don’t eat 3 hours before bed, cut back on alcohol, magnesium lotion on your feet at night, and it’s cheesy but works, try Calm app sleep stories, I love the Bob Ross ones

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Yeah Calm is awesome. I have a headspace subscription. Just waiting for it to expire.

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Take sleeping pills and put your phone somewhere else.

But with what M1 said about about figuring out why you don’t want to sleep - so you have a restless/anxious mind and are just keeping yourself occupied on your phone?

There are aslo natural rememdies I take Valerian root. But there are other things out there as well.

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Take some melatonin

Melatonin is not addictive. Go talk to your doctor about it.

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Listen to sleep meditations on the app Insight Timer (it’s one of the sections). Even if you don’t want to sleep you’ll fall asleep even before the end of it!!!!

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