How do I get over making small mistakes? Seems like they really weigh down my mood 🥺

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You don't, you move on and try again.

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Make a metal note of what you learned from this mistake and just “be okay” with it - like you DONT CARE about the mistake itself. It’s literally an emotional kung fu.

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Can you remember a time when you made a small mistake but a) realized it didn’t bother you that much or b) managed to get over it on your own or c)managed to get over it with somebody else’s help?

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Think about how you’d react if someone you were supervising made that mistake. Now treat yourself with the same kindness. I just made one and I’m trying super hard to do what I just wrote. It takes some time. It’s less about dealing with the mistake and more about dealing with feeling like I have let down my team. It’s no fun!

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