How do I improve my confidence? I’m in a wonderful long-term relationship and they travel weekly, this week in particular has been really hard and I’m feeling really alone. For the first time in my life I’m noticing physical symptoms from my distress/loneliness (panic attacks, exhaustion, SOB, etc.) No desire to hang out with my many friends here and no motivation to do anything really. The thought of calling anyone feels like a heavy burden. I cry easily and often. Has anyone experienced this?

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Is this a more recent feeling or something that’s been going on? It sounds more like a bit of a depressive episode than a confidence thing. Why don’t you feel comfortable reaching out to your SO? I’ve gone through periods like this before and definitely drinking less alcohol, eating healthier, and generally trying to readjust my mindset helped a lot. Also seeing a therapist now to help stop these feelings. Feel free to DM me if you need an anonymous buddy to talk to. There are definitely ways to make things get better

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I find it helpful to discover the things that make you feel powerful. Strength training and weight lifting are up there, and I see you mention going to the gym. I put emphasis on work outs that make me feel tough and beefy (ironically I’m a small woman).

Also I listen to a lot of heavy metal music. Not suggesting you should, it isn’t to everyone’s taste, but it makes me feel so powerful and charged up, and rather immune to feelings of weakness or loss of control. I wonder what would be the things that would make you feel that way…

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I’d sooner do a lot of things before detailing this to anyone, even my partner.

You’ll have to grow more comfortable sharing this sort of thing. Sharing it up front can allow your community to help you and keep you from spiraling!

What’s your diet, exercise, and sleep regimen look like? Sounds like you’re mentally aware that things should be good, but there could be a physiological disconnect that’s hurting your confidence/serotonin production

I go to the gym more when I feel like this. I’ve been working out everyday, it’s hard for me to eat , but when I do it’s extremely healthy. And sleep has never come easy

Is it lonely or you worried about what they may be doing while away — cheating etc ? I get this feeling because you mentioned losing confidence

I feel that confidence often comes with self love, try to write down one thing you like about yourself and one thing that made you proud of yourself everyday. And go back to previous entry regularly until you realize what an awesome person you are and how lucky your SO is. (They probably already agree)

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