How do I know if my marriage is not the right fit? Everyone says marriage is hard work. Not sure how hard one should work before throwing in the towel.

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I definitely think it’s hard work. Sometimes, though, it isn’t worth the battle. If the marriage is making you emotionally sick, it may be time to move on.

Before I married, I always attributed divorce to profound selfishness or stupidity on one or both spouses. My ex-husband was horrific .. literally did everything wrong. But I’m glad I can tell myself (and prospective future mates) that the reason my marriage failed was not my lack of trying. It’s good to have a clear conscience that it wasn’t just lack of commitment. Def try counseling :-)

M1, if you don’t mind sharing, in what ways was he horrific?

Physically abusive AND cheated

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