How do I politely ask for what was a verbal warning "improve or we take next steps" in writing?

The fdbk I received all seems directly tied to my emotional dysregulation that I am just putting a name to let alone not knowing how to fix it (because if I knew that it wouldn't be a problem).

So I want my mgrs to put it in writing and how exactly they plan to measure it (other than they will "hear" it from ppl).... Cuz internally I can't separate what I'm feeling from what I think they're saying

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I would ask them for specific behaviors they are not ok with, examples of the negative impact of those behaviors and/or how they violate company policy, suggestions for alternative behaviors, and a timeframe within which they expect improvement.


Yeah this is my advice as well. Ask for specific examples of conduct or behavior that they find inappropriate/bad and why plus suggestions for ways you can improve. Timeframe is the best one, getting that in writing should protect you a little bit as long as you feel like you can improve.


Does management know about your diagnosis? I know it's technically none of their business, but in this case, it sounds like you could benefit from some accommodations, at least until you navigate this latest development. You can certainly ask them to put their warning in writing, but I'd be more interested in having them spell out a specific plan of action as well as expectations and a time line. Everyone should be clear and on the same page for this. And yes, I'd totally let them know the reasons why you're struggling. They can't work with you if they don't know.


Yes they know but our HR is an external service and I don't have anything on file with them

I would just send an email and be honest and trasnparent. Its better to just be direct and ask for what you are needing rather than trying to beat around the bush. Just ask them to put what you talked about in an email to you so that you can continue to wrok on it.


I sent it this morning and let my mgr know I had sent him an email and that it was important and not to forget to check and well...reply.....

What happens if they don't send it back?

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